There is a guy. I am fond of him. He is a friend just now, but has not been quiet about fancying me and wanting to be more. He has also been good about waiting as I told him I am not ready for a relationship and would like to build a friendship first.
We were meant to be going on a date tonight, a meal at a chinese buffet. I have been fancying this for the past couple of months and am doubly glad to have his good company with me.
Going out necessitates having a sitter. I am a lone parent, so I tend to save asking family for favours for big things, like hospital appointments or the like, and occasionally so I can get out. I was looking forward to getting out and about, having a reason to wear a pretty dress and some nice shoes, and to some food I've fancied for ages.
He has cancelled the night out. He has found work (builder) and the travel costs mean he cannot afford to fund the night. Fair enough.
He offers a night in and a chinese. Or he can cook something. I offer to pay half. He refuses based on being old-fashioned and feeling it necessary to pay.
Would you cancel the night out on the basis that the meal out would only cost him the same as a takeaway or cooked meal if he let you pay, given that you really wanted the buffet and that you don't want to use up good will on babysitting to go around the corner, when he could just as easily come to yours and you could have a takeaway any night of the week? AIBU to point out to him that it would be better to just postpone our date for once he gets a wage if he is going to be chauvinistic about who should pay and who shouldn't?