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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to want to give this mum some advice somehow?

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storminabuttercup · 02/06/2011 21:44

have an aquaintance from my anti-natal group, we meet up now and again and have a chat about the kids

anyone that has seen my other posts will know was paranoid about what i fed ds (9 months) and i've asked for and recieved some fab advice on here and i'm lots more relaxed now.

However, this friend had always been laid back, her ds same age is given yoghurts two or three times a day, which ok each to their own. but since then i have seen her feed ds mini chedars and i know this will sound like i'm making it up, but sausage rolls and cornish pasties (no fruit shoots so far)

She's asked me 'would ds like some' and i've said no i try and be careful about salt etc, as a subtle hint and i know that its none of my business, but i'm worried about this baby.

I'm trying not to sound horrible here i dont think i'm coming accross very well, but if anyone has any advice id appreciate it - even if it is mind your own?

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befuzzled · 02/06/2011 22:27

Sigh, I remember when I only had one child and used recipes. I used to plan a weekly menu for him and everything was home made. Now, 3 dc later, I think we would all starve to death if the local m and s closed and they once had pizza for lunch and dinner when I was very hungover.

Have you seen what she give them at home? I have about 35 seconds to grab stuff as I go out the door so at an nct lunch they probably woul be having highness, pom bears and maybe an apple if I was very organised that week. They do occasionally get a cooked meal at home.

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storminabuttercup · 02/06/2011 22:35

yes annie i know its the same at home, we meet at each others houses mostly just happened to be out the time the baby had the cheddars and cornish pasty, she gave ds a pasty for now and had bought another for the next day becuase she says he likes them. She also tells me 'oh ds is greedy, today he has had....' so she offers up the info quite readily, i dont ask.

lesson learnt and luckily disaster averted!

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exoticfruits · 02/06/2011 22:41

Never try and give friends advice, they never like it.Stick to MN and if they don'tlike it is doesn't matter!

mamandeouisti · 03/06/2011 00:59

Fab words exoticfruits. I remember DS being at a toddler group party when he was about 18months and nearly fainting with shock that there were wotsits on offer. My Kiwi friend told me to chill out and that one orange crisp would not make him a junk-food freak! I don't think you're being unreasonable, OP, in thinking those thoughts...just best not to say anything! I still just have 1 DS, and am sure I'd be more laid back if I had more, but I think we all just have some things we're obsessed about. Some of my friends freak out about my DS being a tree and lamp-post climber (he's nearly 9). I'd worry if I was in charge of their child and they wanted to do it...but I know my own child's abilities. My sister is much more of a food police freak...but I think that will change over time as her Dc get older. I know it has for me. I'm sure your friend's child will be fine.

TheLadyEvenstar · 03/06/2011 01:06

Well thanks I just had to nick DS2's mini cheddars because of you OP, I had been so good in resisting them until you mentioned them!

BooyHoo · 03/06/2011 01:13

is this your first baby OP?

lesley33 · 03/06/2011 08:50

I don't think those foods are a problem to eat occasionally. But I would be judgey as well if they are his regular diet. But no don't say anything unless she asks you - and even then be very careful what you say.

TandB · 03/06/2011 08:57

Mini-cheddars - check.
Yoghurts - check.
Pasties - check.
Sausage roll - no because I don't eat meat.

[Off to book DS into the nearest eating-problem clinic]

VeronicaCake · 03/06/2011 09:09

Was going to say YABU but I'm sure I've thought judgy thoughts about stuff other people feed their kids too and I am never unreasonable so that can't be right!

I think if she is asking where you get your ideas from you could offer some constructive tips on easy healthy snacks like salt free crackers with cream cheese, halved cherry toms, dried fruit etc. Some people really are clueless about healthy eating.

flimflammery · 03/06/2011 09:19

what's wrong with a cornish pastie? Pastry, meat, veggies. Maybe a bit too much salt if eaten every day, and pastry is fattening if you're an overweight adult, but he's not.

Marne · 03/06/2011 10:35

i agree flim, i wish my dc's would eat a pasty (dd1 is very fussy with meat and veg).

I think we all judge but its best to keep it to ourselves . I judge when i see overweight people coming out of McDonalds with there babbies munching on chips and chicken nuggets (i know its none of my buisness but i cant help judging) but i keep it to myself.

EssexGurl · 03/06/2011 10:57

Please don't say anything. As the mother to a child who is fussy beyond belief and will seriously not eat for days, I am always so relieved when she does eat that I will let her have what she wants. Maybe not the best strategy I know, but the awfulness of the eating situation has me in tears most day. The majority of my acquaintances do not know how bad things are as it is none of their business. I would be mortified if one of them started to talk to me about my daughters diet.

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