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No sex drive so I pay for a hooker to satisfy my mans needs.

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katvond · 02/06/2011 16:19

Was reading the newspaper today (the star) on my dinner hour and there was a woman in there who worked several jobs, only managed 5 hrs sleep a night and was totally exhausted so had zero sex drive, her DP on the other hand had a high sex drive and she was scared he'd have an affair so decided to pay for a hooker for him every 2 weeks at £100 a time.
I was utterly gobsmacked. Fancy funding his hooker habit to stop him being unfaithful. As the world gone mad?

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TobyLerone · 02/06/2011 16:52

ok so she is worried he'll haev sex with someone else, so to prevent that, she er, pays for him to have sex with someone else? yes that's logical. maybe she just likes being in control of who that someone else is.

This actually makes quite a lot of sense if you think about it. If he has an affair, he could fall in love with the OW and leave his wife. Emotional entanglement is more difficult to deal with than the physical act of your partner fucking someone else, for some people.

If she pays for the prostitute for him, everyone is getting what they want out of this, with little risk.

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tallulahxhunny · 02/06/2011 16:52

I would have happily paid for a hooker for my ex. it was a chore to me, i did tell him to get it elsewhere ! he turned my stomach.

im happy now though :-)

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BooyHoo · 02/06/2011 16:55

toby wouldn't it just be better all round for them to communicate and talk about how they feel? he can still fall in love with a prostitute. they are humans too with feelings. they aren't robots created for the sole purpose of man's pleasure.

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BooyHoo · 02/06/2011 16:56

and why the hell should she be responsible for him cheating or not cheating?? if he feels neglected, sexually frustrated etc then why doesn't he just say, thsi isn't working out for me i need to have sex elsewhere. why should she have to take measures to prevent him cheating? it's not liek cheating is something he has no control over!!

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TobyLerone · 02/06/2011 16:59

I didn't read the article, but I'm assuming this was discussed between them as a mutually agreeable solution.

I just don't think it's a subject worth judging people on. The way other adults conduct their sex lives is none of my business.

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Curiousmama · 02/06/2011 17:04

Did they identify themselves? As in names and pics?

I can see their point to be honest. It saves him being emotionally unfaithful which would be worse imo? I was in a sexless marriage with exdh and ended up leaving. Wouldn't have paid for it mind you! But am now happy with dp. It's a very lonely existence if one of you has a healthy drive and keeps getting rejected

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Primalscream · 02/06/2011 17:14

I'd rather sleep with prostitutes than read the Daily Star.
Less socially embarrassing.

Hang your head in shame.

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katvond · 02/06/2011 17:48

I know primalscream in my defence though there was nothing to read so I opted for that. Yes I do hang my head in shame :)

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katvond · 02/06/2011 17:49

And curiousmama yes they were both photographed and showed themselves

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pookietherabbit · 02/06/2011 17:53

I wouldn't pay it

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SardineQueen · 02/06/2011 18:00

well I've never been on the star website before but there's a first time for everything!

[http://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/view/193982/The-woman-who-books-hookers-for-her-partner/ for your delectation]]

"Tia, who often only gets five hours? sleep a night thanks to her packed work schedule, admits that by the time she gets home, has cleaned the house and cooked supper, she is simply too exhausted for nookie"

FFS

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SardineQueen · 02/06/2011 18:02

"When I?m in Tesco on the tills I can?t check my phone so the situation is perfect. I have no way to contact him to check up on him and I am too distracted by the customers to think about what he is doing.?

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EricNorthmansMistress · 02/06/2011 18:32

She could pay a lot less than that for a cleaner, and be less tired. Or cut down a few hours at work. This story is ridonkulous!

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Orbinator · 02/06/2011 18:43

Wonder how much someone got paid to make that tosh up?

Either that or the woman has very low opinion of herself and hubby if she thinks hubby is so animalistic that he could cast her aside without a second glance...but wait, she's now condoned that, as long as it's for money...so hooker gets her man twice a week, his "goods" and a pay off!? Doesn't sound different to him having an affair tbh. Men don't tend to get emotionally involved in those either.

She's a gimp if she really does this. So sad.