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Original poster

To think this is the lowest of the low and worry why my neighbours did this

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Fernie3 · 02/06/2011 14:07

my next door neighbours were banging on the wall this morning in the living room because they were pissed off at my 10 month old crying (she is ill). Just as background.

Anyway my 4 year old was playing outside and managed to get his head totally stuck in the swing, cue us spending a wonderful 15 minutes with soap and finally having to cut the middle of the swing to get him out.

And there's my neighbour hanging out her upstairs window filming us on a camera phone?!

Wtf?

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missinglalaland · 02/06/2011 15:47

YANBU! Your neighbour sounds truly awful. And perhaps not quite right mentally. I would report this to the police. Surely all these privacy rights we hear about apply to innocent children in their own backgardens!

trice · 02/06/2011 15:53

Why don't you talk to your neighbour? Maybe she is worried about your children. You have to live with each other and the best way to do this is to have a chat and see if you can understand each other. Calling the police on her will just end up in a neighbours from hell scenario.

BurningBridges · 02/06/2011 16:04

I think OP is already well into a neighbours from hell scenario! Police. definitely.

BatmanLovesRobin · 02/06/2011 16:12

Ah, I see re: public filming.

I would be keeping a log of all incidents, as another poster suggested - just in case.

jasminetom · 02/06/2011 16:14

yes report her, that is the lowest of the low

ScrotalPantomime · 02/06/2011 16:20

Quite a few come up on YouTube but doesn't look like what you describe. But yes, keep a record. Horrible woman Angry

MrsBethel · 02/06/2011 16:32

If there's one thing I've learned from all that stupid media guff about footballers, it's that the human rigts act confers a right to privacy.

I'm going to go out on a limb and speculate that a neighbour filming you and your children whilst you are in your own garden infringes your privacy. Would it be a civil matter?

scurryfunge · 02/06/2011 16:40

Yes, civil. It becomes criminal if harassment is involved.

katvond · 02/06/2011 16:44

What bastards, report them to the police and council. What horrible people.
Hope your DS is ok :)

worraliberty · 02/06/2011 16:49

Report them to the police for what?

Sadly, filming someone from your own property with your own camera is not an offence.

MizzyFizzy · 02/06/2011 16:53

I don't think she has plans to YouTube the video.

I think it's more likely she was taping the event and noise (I presume your DC was crying mine would've been) to use as evidence of your noise levels. Sad

JustShootMeAlready · 02/06/2011 16:55

Whatever about coming on here to vent/ get advice, I'd be knocking on her door, demanding to know why they saw fit to film you and your child. End of.

worraliberty · 02/06/2011 16:55

That's what I was thinking...perhaps they're going to show SS or someone. Not that they'd have reason to Sad

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Fernie3 · 02/06/2011 16:58

I was worried about them showing ss to be honest because of the complaining about the crying although woukd social services really be inerested in a child stuck in a swing? It's not like we left him hanging there :(

They have not been inn all afternoon since then but I'm getting paranoid about it!

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Fernie3 · 02/06/2011 17:02

I am thinking of contacting the police about it but dh thinks that over reacting (he is of the opinion of we still have to live here afterwards). I can't decide whether to do it or not now or if it will just make things worse!

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scurryfunge · 02/06/2011 17:05

Just go round and explain that you were doing your best to keep your ill baby quiet and ask why they felt the need to photograph you. Just keep a record of everything from now on in case they become a problem.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 02/06/2011 17:05

SS are not going to be interested in someone getting their child unstuck from a swing. A combine harvester maybe, but not a swing. If you had stood about filming it rather than helping him it would be an issue.

I would go full on batshit about someone filming my child in this kind of situation.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 02/06/2011 17:07

You could tell the police that you think you saw your neighbour's partner filming your little boy in your garden.

scurryfunge · 02/06/2011 17:11

Are you suggesting making up paedophile allegations EvenlessNP?

worraliberty · 02/06/2011 17:14

You could tell the police that you think you saw your neighbour's partner filming your little boy in your garden

And they would tell you it's not against the law (sigh)

BurningBridges · 02/06/2011 17:15

This neighbour is hardly normal is she, who on earth behaves like that - banging on walls and filming kids - and expects to get away with it? OP do you have PCSOs in your area rather than going full on police first?

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Fernie3 · 02/06/2011 17:22

Um I have no idea what type of police we have around here I have never spoken to or seen them before!.
I am more worried about them keeping Some sort of a record about us tbh and as someone says above reporting us to social services or something - after some of the stories on here that's a terrifying thought!. That's what I would like to avoid I'm not that bothered about the photo itself it's more why they took it/ what it is for that worries me if you see what I mean.
Not sure what I can do about that though. I have never really spoken to them - the woman has to children older than mine I would say early teens but I'm not good at guessing age. They have never been very friendly we talk alot to the people on the other side but that side pretty much ignore if you say hello or anything.

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EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 02/06/2011 17:24

Of course not Scurryfunge. I'm just saying that if she tells PCSOs in particular exactly what she saw ie her neighbour's DP at the window with his phone, and that she believes that he was filming her DS, then they may pop around to ask some questions. That is after all what happened. If she chooses to add that he had his head stuck in the swing that is up to her.

scurryfunge · 02/06/2011 17:26

I wouldn't deliberately omit information to get a police response.

MizzyFizzy · 02/06/2011 17:28

I was thinking more of the neighbour using the video as evidence of noise nuisance/anti social behaviour tbh than a report to social services...they say to keep a record of noise issues and stuff when complaining.

It may well be that you are the one that needs to keep a record of all this stuff though....she sounds like a particularly difficult neighbour.