To think that MIL should have bought her something??!

[Benjamas]

My DD is 9 months old. Mil has just got back from a 2 week stay in New York.

The shopping capital of the world, ish.

She came back with a keyring for DH, nothing for me and nothing for DD.

Really?? Not even a t shirt??? I'm a bit fuming. About DD... Not me!

[Jux]

Actually, I'd be a bit miffed too, if my MIL had gone on about how wonderful non-Brit high str clothes would be for my dd, too. I'd assume that she'd run out of money if she came home without, though, and it's true that your dd will never know. Better to wait until dd's older to get her something she'll actually remember!

[jasper]

I didn"t miss anything.
Especially your original question.
To which the answer is still yes

[Knackeredmother]

My dad/fil ( dh and I both lost our mums) have never bought out dc ANYTHINg.
Docent mean they don't love them though.

[stuffthenonsense]

I am curious what your DH thinks of the situation, for me, if money was tight, I would rather a keepsake for my DD that would be kept than a token for myself that would likely be filed away in the back of a drawer.
I don't think the OP is meaning that the lack of gifts is unfair in a grasping way, I think that she is feeling/wondering if the lack of gifts is actually indicative of the state of the relationship
If this was about 'get gifts' I would say yabu BUT as I feel that there is a genuine hurting here about something deeper I am going to say YANBU

[PickleSarnie]

A 2 week holiday in New York and you expect her to traipse around the shops (which are dotted all over the place and baby shops are nowhere near as prolific there as here and I'm presuming she doesn't know NYC well) to buy baby clothes. Seriously? Can't you even begin to imagine what a total drag that would be?!

[clam]

Why should you expect jasper to have read a previous thread about your MIL? You asked if YWBU in this thread. Many have answered that you are.

[Bogeyface]

I can sort of see where the OP is coming from, in that the MIL implied that she would be bringing back clothes/gifts for the baby and then didnt. If she wasnt sure that she would be doing that then she shouldnt have mentioned it. Also, if the MIL is a bit anti the OP then it could feel like a slap in the face. I have a very bad relationship with my MIL and things that wouldnt really be a major issue in a good relationship do stand out as definete and deliberate insults when you dont get on.

That said, not bringing back a gift is not, in itself, a hanging offence so I can see why alot of people questioned whether she was being grasping. But as I say, put into the context of a bad MIL/DIL relationship, it does change things and I do feel that the OP is being a bit unfairly judged.

[worm77daisy]

Maybe she has bought things for her first birthday and so is saving them for that?

[tallulahxhunny]

I'd be a bit pissed off too tbh. Why buy the dad and not the child ?

as someone already said maybe she hasnt unpacked yet or is keeping the gifts for birthday etc :)

[cookcleanerchaufferetc]

YABU to expect a present or you and DH.

Yadnbu to expect a gift for baby. There are oodles of places to buy gorgeous clothes or toys cheaply without going out of her way. She is being mean.

[Scholes34]

Mmmm, MIL could have easily popped into Gap or H&M to buy something.

[Catsu]

I've never brought back presents when I've been away on holiday! Do people really expect you to spend your holiday present shopping rather than enjoying yourself?!
And so what that she saw a keyring and thought ooh x will like that. Doesn't then commit her to buying expensive gifts for everyoe else!
You are being very unreasonable

[BsshBossh]

My DD's grandfather (DH's dad) didn't even bring a Christmas present for my toddler DD when he visited. She didn't notice but I bloody well did [anger]. I think that trumps you OP .

[shirleyshortcut]

blimey when I go to the USA, the last thing on my mind is traipsing round shops looking at clothes - shudders!

[OTheHugeManatee]

YABU. Why on earth should anyone feel obliged to buy tat for their entire extended family just because they've been somewhere on holiday?

[SarahBumBarer]

I don't think generally there should be any expectation of gifts when a GP (or anyone) goes on holiday but in this case the GP made a lot of comments about how much she was going to bring back. OK the DD is only 9 months but what if this goes on in 4/5 years time and you have a very let down child. That's not on. MIL should put up or shut up!

YANBU (provided I am understanding correctly that your gripe is about the lack of follow through on the promise not the lack of gift per se).

[Pictish]

personally speaking, the last thing I want to do on my holiday is shop for tat for people back home.

Maybe she was just busy and couldn't be arsed to take the time out to look for a gift for her gd?

[Pictish]

I agree with Catsu - one keyring does not an injustice make. It's just a keyring.

[fifi25]

My MIL went to New York last year and my 3 DD's got a bag each. She said a lot of the stuff was very expensive and she spent a fortune on food..more than she thought she would. Maybe she ran out of money.

[screamingskull]

I don't think YABU. If your MIL had not implied that she was going to be bringing clothes home for your daughter you most likely would never have given it a second thought.

My Mil does this sort of thing too, as an adult im not botherd by it, but it really hacks me off when done to my DC.

Fair enough your DD is only 9mth just now but if it carry's on pls ask your DH to nip it in the bud. It is horrible when someone is saying to your child "oh i'll get you this and i'll get you that" and then comes home with a bit of bloody rock....i personaly feel it's best to say nothing then no one expects anything.

[SkipToTheEnd]

Maybe she has put the stuff aside for your DD's birthday in 3 months?

[CMOTdibbler]

I go to the US a lot, and find buying clothes for ds is really tricky. They are generally more expensive, and not always a great choice in the city stores (this is different when I get out to malls)

I usually bring tat back for ds, but people always go on about clothes shopping - I rarely get anything

[EssexGurl]

Um - why would you expect a present when she got back? Seems a bit over the top to me. In-laws have about 5 holidays a year and we get nothing, not even a postcard. Never even thought about it though.

TBH when DH and I went to NY we thought the shopping was a bit crap and bought nothing. Couldn't see the attraction.

[anniepanniepears]

I dont normally buy for people when I am on holiday ,
but if I said I would bring back something for my grandaughter then I would! mil is bu not you op