So, I have a very busy job & 2 teenagers (1 an adult) plus a dh and younger dc (14) who really don't get it that if I say I don't want to be disturbed for a short time unless it's life-or-death, that's what I mean.
Example one: I gave up going to yoga classes because they didn't fit in with other family needs, but resolved to set aside some time to practice yoga at home. So, I tell everyone in the house I'm going to do half an hour's yoga, lock the bedroom door and say "do not disturb - treat it as though I'm out at a yoga class, I'll pick it up when I'm 'back'."
A phone call from work comes, dh bangs on the door for me to come to phone. My reasoning is that, if I was at a yoga class, I wouldn't have been able to answer it anyway. Dh and rest of family can always let the answering machine get it, but they never do.
Example 2 - dh is in work. I've just come in after a 10-hour day out at work, cleaned up mess dc have left in kitchen (to be fair, they had made dinner) and am sitting down with aforesaid meal and wine with dc.
Phone goes, I ask dc2 not to answer it, or if she does, say I'm "out". She answers it, dh on phone, demands I come to phone to speak to him (so I think it's urgent) whereupon all he wants to know if we can make a date in the future to have dinner with a colleague.
Then he's miffed when I say I'll look it up in diary when he gets home and we can text his colleague to let him know (rather than let my long-awaited dinner get cold and wine warm!)
Surely, it's not too much too ask? Dh does have problems being assertive with people, but I'm getting royally P*ed off with his, and rest of family's, understanding that I need a bit of head space now and again.
Or aibu?