to be pissed off at DP about his work arrangements in the run up to the birth of our DC2?

[Stangirl]

I am 33 weeks pg with DC2 with a 16mo DD. I am tired and huge and my last day at my fulltime job is tomorrow (hurray!). Every time my DP sits down to talk to me recently it has been to ask for more time to spend at work. First off he is spending all of this Saturday (7am till 10pm) at a work event. Next he says he wants to go on a conference in France for 2 days in 3 weeks time. Now he tells me that he hasn't asked for his paternity leave yet - and even when he does if it is when we hope it is (I have am ELCS booked for 39 weeks) then he will need to go into work for an all day board mtg on the second Thursday.

I have pointed out that a) if he goes to Italy he may miss the birth of his child, b) that he can't expect me to take care of our toddler and a newborn by myself 10 days after major surgery, c) that as a Director of the company he should be able to get them to be more reasonable, d) he's a bloody coward for not asking for paternity leave yet. I am soooo cross. AIBU?

YANBU. I think it's easy for people to say "having a baby doesn't mean the world stops" but actually yours does for a little while. It sounds as though your husband has some power at work as a director so can make sure that things are sorted to suit both the business and his family.

I was lucky when DS was born as DH was between jobs. This time, he'll be coming to the end of a contract. But we have a toddler, and I'm having a ELCS, so there is no way he is not being at home for the first two weeks. He can do some work at home, no problem, but I want him here with us, no excuses!