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To dress siblings in the same?

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whereiswally · 01/06/2011 08:13

so I bought dd's matchng tshirts nothing solgan like just the same pattern tshirt. Got home to dh who thinks this is awful and shouldn't have dc (aged 3 and 7 months) dressing the same. So I thought I'd ask mn and see what is the general opinion on this ?!?!very important!?!? Matter!! :o

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BelleDameSansMerci · 01/06/2011 08:38

I don't think I'd do this, sorry... Having said that, my DD is only 3.9 and I already (usually) let her choose what she wants to wear. I think if the children are happy with it, it's great but not if not. If that makes sense.

7 months is probably a bit young to making her decision though

TrillianAstra · 01/06/2011 08:42

At 3 and 7 months only one of them is old enough to have an opinion.

If she thinks it is nice to dres the same as her bay sister the go for it.

If not, they can always wear them at different times.

I have a friend who when she was young she and her sister tried to persuade their Mum to join in with the matching outfits so that all 3 of them would be dressed the same!

MovingGal · 01/06/2011 08:46

My sister and I (2yrs apart) were always dressed the same or in the same thing but different colours and we grew to hate it by the age of 10 or 12!!
People always thought we were twins and I hated that because she is tall and slim and tanned where I am short and ..ummm...roundish and fair and freckled. To me it just emphasised my dumpiness against her willowy-ness.
My own boys were not dressed the same but did have a couple of outfits in the same colour themes when they were very young ( maybe 1yr & 4yrs)

lesley33 · 01/06/2011 08:46

I think they are so young that it is down to personal taste. I do think though that when they get old enough to notice/ care what they are wearing, that you shouldn't do this except maybe for special occasions e.g. weddings or if the children themselves want the same item of clothing. Children need to develop their own sense of individuality and making them look identical or as close to, I don't think helps with this.

lifechanger · 01/06/2011 08:55

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puffylovett · 01/06/2011 08:57

My 4 yr old insists on wearing the same top as his little brother, whom he adores. I just go with it where possible at the mo!

Catsu · 01/06/2011 08:57

It's fine for the odd occasion but I wouldn't do it all the time!
My sil dresses her 2 daughters the same every day down to socks and shoes. They are 6 and 7 yo now and I think getting a bit too old for it.
I also wonder about all the money wasted by not passing down clothes!
I have 2 dcs 2 years apart and very often they get gifts of matching outfits from my family who are so used to sil doing the matching thing!

baboos · 01/06/2011 08:58

I have twin sister and not only did my mum dress them the same, (my sisters hated it) as they have very different personalities...............for that same reason I NEVER dress my twin sons in the same clothes, they do have the some of the same outfits etc, but never wear them at the same time.

Blatherskite · 01/06/2011 08:59

My Mum used to dress me, my two younger Sisters and my Brother in pretty much the same outfits. Even going as far as making matching items if she couldn't buy them!!

As the eldest, I hated it! I hated being dressed as a baby and felt left out when the clothes got passed down and my younger sisters were dressed the same still but I was different I appreciate this is only a problem if you have 3 or more children so won't apply to your 2 girls.

That said, my friend has two young girls who adore dressing the same and do it almost daily so I guess it's down to the children and at 7 months, your youngest isn't going to have an opinion.

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whereiswally · 01/06/2011 09:04

Thanks for so many replies I just asked dd if she would like to wear the same as her baby sis and she just laughed and said that's silly mummy! So looks as though I've been out voted on this one!! I still think it looks cute but can totally see the cheesiness of it too!!

Just have to share this too.....my dd2 7 months old just crawled across the floor for first time!!!! Sorry I'm sure I shouldn't be bragging but so proud!!!

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icooksocks · 01/06/2011 09:05

My two ds's are only 18months apart and it's never occured to me to dress the same . The only thing they have the same is a pink t-shirt I just couldn't pass up on and didn't know which one would look best in it so I bought 2 . They have worn it at the same time a couple of times but they always have different trousers on. Other than that thier wardrobes are completely different.
Whatever makes people happy though-and maybe its easier to buy two the same than choose different outfits

lazylula · 01/06/2011 09:05

YANBU. I have 2 boys, 5 and nearly 3 and they have the occassional outfit the sama. They have 2 sets at the moment, so it is not an everyda thing, I would not want it to be, it is just an occasional thing. They have matching outfits for a wedding we are going to in July. It is definitely a personal choice thing though.

confuseddotcodotuk · 01/06/2011 09:06

I agree with your DP, YABU!

I have two sisters, we're all within 5 years of one another in age. When we were kids my Mum used to dress us exactly the same but with different coloured shirts, normally brightly, hideously coloured shirts that would make everybody cringe and usually paired with awfully patterned leggings! I will never forgive for for her fashion faux pas

We also had matching coats, matching shoes, matching trousers, swimming cossies and so on. I've never understood it

My ex was a twin and his mother had the same policy, one with blue and one with red.

saffy85 · 01/06/2011 09:06

I wouldn't do this against a child's will but if they didn't mind then I don't see why not. No harm is there long as they're happy.

Mind you, my mum used to dress me and my sister the same a fair bit. Didn't mind at the time but we didn't exactly look even vaguely related back then so we may have looked a bit daft.

glammapuss · 01/06/2011 09:07

My dm did it to me and my dsis, we were mistaken for twins and I hated it.

However, my dds, 3 and 1, are dressed the same from time to time. Guess I didn't learn, but they're too young for an opinion atm.

I don't really see it as a problem, go for it if you like the tshirts, if they're wearing different trousers they'll look different enough.

LunaticIsOnTheGrass · 01/06/2011 09:09

I used to put my 2 DS in matching outfits for smart occasions when they were small but thats as far as it went.

Saying that - I've just bought them the same nike trackie to put by for xmas, but they were on special offer

smallpotato · 01/06/2011 09:09

I have a 3yo and a 1yo and got v excited in a shop the other day when I realised DD2 was now old enough for me to get their clothes from the same section of the shop.

Not every day, but every now and then I think it's sweet. And DD1 thinks it's hilarious to wear the same as her sister!

smallpotato · 01/06/2011 09:09

I have a 3yo and a 1yo and got v excited in a shop the other day when I realised DD2 was now old enough for me to get their clothes from the same section of the shop.

Not every day, but every now and then I think it's sweet. And DD1 thinks it's hilarious to wear the same as her sister!

DumSpiroSpero · 01/06/2011 09:18

My friend has 2 girls just over a year apart and often dresses them the same. I think it's fine when they're little, so long as it's not all the time & you don't insist on doing it when they're 12!

fiveisanawfullybignumber · 01/06/2011 09:20

DD's 2 & 3, almost 3 and 1 often wear matching outfits. DD2 will often have a Monsoon dress, then DD3 will have a matching top and leggings, or sometimes the complete same outfit. DD2 (3), loves it when her baby sister wears the same as her. They often wear separate ouftits though, so it's usually on days out or similar.
Yes it looks cheesy, but very cute, and often people will stop and say Aahh, don't they look sweet together. It won't last long, so I'm enjoying it now, while they do.

sazzermol · 01/06/2011 09:32

I'm not of a strong opinion either way, although all the time might be a tad OTT. On a more practical front it probably saves time when shopping for them!? I'd imagine finding one winter coat/boot combo is bad enough but then insisting on starting the search again for DC2 might get tiresome

spongefingerssavedmylife · 01/06/2011 09:33

Congrats on the crawling!
My DDs (3 and 17m) have a lot of the same clothes - I have more of a 'capsule wardrobe' system than lots of cheap and cheerful things! I tend to just buy the next size up in things I have liked from the previuos season - as a result DD2 has lots of hand me downs the same as DD1 s new clothes, sometimes in different colours. They don't always wear them at the same time though. But waterproof trousers etc are just navy.
They love wearing the same dresses though and find it highly entertaining, so for special occasions I dress them the same - save lots of arguments! Maybe different cardigans or something though so older one looks more grown up. I wouldn't if they didn't want to though. If dd1 chooses there clothes she often goes for complimentary rather than matching (ie both all in pink).
If have just asked dd1 and she says that dresses should match but not shirts.
And yes, it is cheesy, but I think they look fab in their pretty matching dresses!!
My bros are twins and often had matching clothes in different colours - it's just easier. They still often turn up looking pretty daft at 27 having unwittingly bought identical outfits, they never seem to notice till someone points it out though, is v funny.

smileyfacestar · 01/06/2011 14:19

I think it looks cute. I dress my two (dd1 4 and dd2 2) in the same outfit sometimes. It is easier to spot them in the park/beach/shop. My dh thinks it's cute too but to do this every day would be slightly odd.

Ephiny · 01/06/2011 14:20

They probably won't care at that age, but it does look a bit odd as they get older. They don't have to wear them at the same time though!

youngwomanwholivesinashoe · 01/06/2011 14:21

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