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to have incredibly low expectations of myself as a future parent?

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purplepidjin · 30/05/2011 16:16

I don't have DC's yet (hopefully in a couple of years)

I work with people with special needs. I have attended endless training courses on crisis management, dealt effectively with toddler-style tantrums from teenagers, preved endlessly that I can keep calm and use a low slow tone of voice, quenched silly behaviour with just "the look", used hundred's of strategies to promote positive behaviour...

I'm so going to be the world's shittest Mum, aren't I? Shouting, swearing, begging for a bottle glass of wine at 6pm, sending them to their room for hours, buying them fruitshoots and chocolate instead of dealing with the meltdown when I say no Grin

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Glitterknickaz · 30/05/2011 16:18


you'll be fab because you're a realist, you know that it may not go to plan and SN may arise....


BooyHoo · 30/05/2011 16:18

nope, you will be on par with me then so both of us cant be the shittest!!


Snuppeline · 30/05/2011 16:18

Yes you are going to be a very shitty mum indeed. But not to worry, you'll be in first class company here on MN. Nearly five pm thank god so have a glass of Wine Grin


worraliberty · 30/05/2011 16:19

Depends really. Work and Parenthood are two very seperate things, even if you do work with other people's children.


COCKadoodledooo · 30/05/2011 16:20

Lower expectations are definitely easier to attain Grin


BooyHoo · 30/05/2011 16:21

totally agree COCK Grin


usualsuspect · 30/05/2011 16:21

I think you will be a normal mum,just like me thousands of others


Latootle · 30/05/2011 16:23

if you aim low thats where you'll reach. I'm sure you will be fine.


LadyBeagleEyes · 30/05/2011 16:26

No, you sound like a perfect mum.
I just went with the flow, and instinct,had many crap moments and I've got a brilliant 16 year old son.
Much as I love mumsnet, there's so much advice out there for young parents I'm surprised you can get through the day without feeling guilty.


LRDTheFeministDragon · 30/05/2011 16:28

Grin You and me both, purple.

But that's the thing I love about MN - knowing it actually doesn't really matter if I don't hand-knit my prospective babies every garment and play baby Mozart to them in the womb.

I feel much less scared about being a mum than I did before I found MN. In all seriousness, I was terrified I wouldn't be able to break away from my own mum's example, and I'd end up screaming at and hitting my kids because being a mum would make me lose my temper so I couldn't control myself. MN helped me realize that actually, there's no reason I would do that and no reason I'd ruin children's lives by not being perfect ... because you don't have to be perfect.


purplepidjin · 30/05/2011 16:29

Ah yes, but I ought to win World's Best Mum prizes and give masterclasses to all the middle-class yummy mummy types. I've got all this training y'see...

It's totally different when it's 24/7 and, while it's not that I don't care about the people I work with, I can see myself finally learning to shout when I'm angry, instead of hiding in the loos for 5 minutes to cry Grin

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Orchidskeepdying · 30/05/2011 17:03

I don't get it? Why would you decided that you are going to be the worst mum?


purplepidjin · 30/05/2011 17:08

I haven't!!! It's more about other people's expectations of me - I reckon I'll just kinda get on with things like normal people everybody else

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Orchidskeepdying · 30/05/2011 17:22

OOO I just spotted the other thread and 'get it' hehe

You sound like you'll be fantastic!


purplepidjin · 30/05/2011 19:36

The thread was inspired by that one, yes. But it is also a conversation I've had in RL so not completely a fred about a fred Wink

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