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AIBU?

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To tell DH I want to go on holiday without him?

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TheGrandFatherDon · 29/05/2011 16:40

Last year we went to Florida as a family and DH did nothing but show us up and make a fool out of himself. One particular thing sticks in my mind as an example - we were on the Jimmy Neutron ride at Universal and towards the end everyone on it started singing and screaming and clapping etc. DH shouts "what the fuck are they all screaming about? silly bastards. Shut the fuck up you fucking over the top american twats, its a kids ride, what you getting excited for?"
It ended up in an argument with a big american bloke and to cut a long story short we were escorted out and threatened with a ban from the entire park. Later we saw another family who pointed us out as the "ones that go to america that hate americans" and were promtly told to fuck off back home to where we come from. I was devasted for DS who was so upset and embarrassed by it all and it really spoilt the holiday. Other stuff happened to like that albiet on a smaller scale (like In Disney a model train thing de-railed and everyone was stood around pointing at it until a bloke climbed the fence and went to fix it DH shouted out "oo look, I'm an american, I just HAVE to interefere and be the hero!" Hmm this was met with a couple of other blokes asking DH was his problem was etc.
This year I want to book another holiday to Florida for next year but DS really doesn't want DH to come and TBH, neither do I. DH and I did speak about all this after it happened and he apologised and swore it wouldn't happen again etc and I said I forgave him but AIBU to still say I don't want him to come with us? it will cause a huge row, I know but to risk all that again?
(Name Changed because of the American Bashing, don't want it to follow me to other threads).

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QuackQuackSqueak · 30/05/2011 10:40

How old is your DS (sorry if I missed that). My dad used to be a bit American (and Australian) hating when I was younger but I doubt very much he would have said anything in public!

Sounds like your DH was actually trying to start a fight! It's one thing you don't do if you go to another country . . . slag off the people that live there or their culture etc. What is the point of going! But really why did he agree to go if he hates Americans so much!

At the most if someone was being really over the top I can imagine my DH giving me a discrete "look" but to mouth off!

Is he like that in this country? So openly critical of anything different? Such as is he one of those people that go into Indian restaurants and then say they smell and makes racist comments?

You must be so tense when you are with him! Why are you with him?

ShellyBoobs · 30/05/2011 10:53

YANBU.

Your OH sounds like an absolute knob.

The fact he'd use such abusive language in front of his own and others DCs is bad enough, never mind abusing people openly like that.

I wouldn't even be thinking about whether to go on holiday without him. I'd be thinking about leaving him permanently!

Does he have any redeeming qualities?

HansieMom · 30/05/2011 16:41

Is he working? Reason I ask is that you are arranging holidays by yourself. If you are the one paying for these holidays, then you have lots of reasons not to take him. Is he DS's father? DS sounds more mature!

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