AIBU?
when do I stop co-sleeping??
theowlandthepussycatwenttosea · 28/05/2011 11:37
I am co-sleeping with a baby. But wondering when people stop - I have a friend who co-sleeps with a 5 yo. The child doesn't have his own bed yet. When does a child need their own bed. We are in a 1 bed flat so we do need to know when we should make arrangements.
hairylights · 28/05/2011 11:49
I think it's entirely up to you as a family. If the child begins to express his wish for his own bed, or if you start to want your own space as a couple then that's a cue. Certainly long before puberty, I'd say, when children become very body and privacy conscious.
Co-sleeping isn't for me but it's each families decision.
issynoko · 28/05/2011 11:54
DD is 7 and comes into our bed most nights. She shares with younger brother and sister and we are trying to get her to settle in her own bed now - have a new one due in the winter and need some room without her feeling banished! She does have a 'nest' in our room sometimes but is getting better at being taken back to her bed and tucked in. I have a friend who is a child psychologist and she said that she deals with a lot of teenagers who are still bed-sharing with parents aged 14, 15 and by then it causes big problems for them socially and psychologically. So somewhere between baby and adult!!!
Tee2072 · 28/05/2011 12:26
My 2 year old is currently transitioning into his own room. I say transitioning because he still ends up with me or my husband most nights.
Tonight, though, because he's ill, he'll be starting with me and staying with me so I can keep an eye on him.
There are no rules about this. Just got with the flow!
julienoshoes · 28/05/2011 12:32
When our youngest was ready-she was about 12 BUT I needed more space before that-being squeezed between dd2 who scratched her excema on her arms, when she got to hot and dh who scratches his legs because his circulation condition makes them itch so, was just too muc!! So I go a foam put you up bed and lay it down next to my side of the bed, and dd2 slept there. She could reach out and touch me if she needed to, but I could sleep 
-such a relief! When dd2 decided she was actually ready to go into her own bed in a room shared with her sisiter (which had been ready for years) she could, knowing she could just come back to the put me up bed, if she got frightened in the night.
squeakytoy · 28/05/2011 14:06
I have a friend who is a child psychologist and she said that she deals with a lot of teenagers who are still bed-sharing with parents aged 14, 15 and by then it causes big problems for them socially
Good god... I was more interested in co-sharing a bed with my boyfriend by the time I was 15!!
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