Brother being selfish or am I being insensitive?

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I'm getting married very soon. Met my future DH through my brother, they work together and were good friends. My brother told DF to not go there with me as I am his younger sister. Anyway, it happened regardless....Me and DF are best friends, I can honestly say I have met my soul mate :) we got on so well from day one!
Forward a couple of years, said brother has accepted us and wedding is near. I have asked my niece (brother's daughter) to be bridesmaid. She is 14 and so happy! The day before the fitting my brother decided he couldn't get the day off work to bring her for the fitting :(
It was worked out eventually so my niece made the fitting but my brother hasn't spoke to either of us since.
I can see (sort of) why my brother is feeling uncomfortable but surely by now he should be happy for us?
AIBU?

I'm new to MN too, sandy, and I don't know what I have to do so that I can pm and vice versa

Sorry about the hackneyed cliches, but at this particular time in your life you are best advised to resist temptation and let sleeping dogs lie.

If your brother raises it with you that's a different matter entirely but, in the meantime, your wedding preparations give you the perfect opportunity to shove this matter on the back burner to be boiled at some future date - or not, as the case may be.

Many congratulations on your forthcoming wedding - I hope you will both have a wonderful day, and long and happy life together.

That is an awful thing to have on your mind right now. That is usually what happens when Weddings,Christenings, Ect come around. This person hates this person, This persons son called another persons daughter a disgruntled hippo.

It can get ugly. :o

Hackneyed...as in East London? I'm not far from you :)
I know what you are saying is right but we shall see! I have left it for a while now but the wedding is really close and now I am a tad worried about the whole day. I'm sure it will all be fine, maybe I am a bridezilla in disguise really x

sqee I wish ppl had warned me.....at my tender age I had no idea
(I'm really not that young :P) x

Sounds like your brother thinks he will be losing a buddy and it will change their whole relationship. Your brother is being selfish.

Maybe he didn't want to take a days holiday just to chauffer his dd to the dress fitting. Your wedding is obviously important to you, not so much to other people. He might prefer to save his days off for other things.

It was a dress fitting and you wanted your brother to waste a days leave for that?

My leave is too precious to waste for something like that now I have children.

There are some somewhat paranoid posts on here, imho. I think by far the most likely explanation is that your brother is just feeling slightly squeamish about the whole thing. It certainly doesn't sound like anything more sinister is going on -- unless he's very odd he would be more direct if he had serious worries.
He's probably just being a bit immature, maybe doesn't think your other half is "good enough" in a vague way but that's about it. He does sound a bit selfish although it may be difficult for him to be objective about it. I'd just bide your time and he will probably come round.

I'd not make a big deal out of it, and depending on how you and your brother usually interact, maybe be extra nice and go ask him if you can make up, as he is your brother, and you want it to be good between you.

(Doubtful anyone will recognize that quote, but it's a good one from this song

I also met my dh through my brother. They were best mates back then and still are, infact I think they spend far too much time together. So really it should all have worked out perfectly and you should all get along great and he should be making the most of having his best mate as his brother in law. Give him a kick up the bum and tell him to grow up