Look, i know its not my buisiness, but feel very much like i am being taken the piss out of...or AIBU??

[bigbumum]

Bloody facebook, its a curse isnt it!
So, i work in excess of 40 hours a week, i have a child dh, home etc etc blah blah blah.
Had pnd, have got tons of family around me but they show absolutely zitch interest in helping me or supporting me with my child so i have struggled and just got on with it all, quietly muttering under my breath about it all. He is 8 now so we are used to it, BUT i know what its like to have PND and little support.

I have a good friend. She has no family at all. Her dh works, and is not too good at helping as far as i can gather.
She has PND and a 10 month old. She is on matty leave still.
So to help i go once a week to babysit, i do her ironing, a bit of cleaning as the house is chaos. This is so she can go out with her dh (Me and dh been married for 12 years and never even been out for anniversery due to no babysitter)
She has asked me to babysit for her one afternoon a week also for a regular appointment that she has. This is near impossible due to my work.
I asked her DH could he not do it, he says no. So i have managed 2 sessions for her.
Babysat for her last weekend so she can go out with her dh as well.

Just looked on her FB and she was saying that she went out last WEdnesday to a payday party! She has NO ONE to babysit, her dh WILL have gone wth her, so it wont have been him babysitting.

Felt very cross that i never fucking get to go anywhere other than work, and she is out 3 times a week.
(Not that it matters but she doesnt drink and is a fantastic mum)
spose im jealous, im pouting and everything like a 10 year old at the mo.

what do you think????

MonstaMunch thank you, I was thinking the same thing and feeling very confused. I was sure I'd read it before but it felt the same but different from the last one.

bigbumum if you aren't happy with the situation you need to say no.

It's all very well to say that she has PND but you are doing all you can and they (her and her DH) are now asking for more.

She's at home all day and I know it's hard to get things done when your baby needs attention. I remember my LO going through a stage at about 7 months old where he would cry and scream if he were not in my arms and I wasn't standing up. I would spend hours holding him and walking about feeling like my back was going to break and getting nothing done because it was still better than putting him down and listening to him screaming and crying for hours. That stage lasted for about eight weeks and it was awful, even without PND.

I would have appreciated (almost) any help but I think your friend has started to take you for granted, she and her husband.

Sooner or later they are going to have to deal with their own messy house and face facts that their social lives have to change.

She's got time to go out several times a week and to spend time on facebook. So she's got time to do a bit of her own housework or use that time to be with her husband.

You said in your last thread that your own husband isn't happy about this arrangement so the next time she asks you the answer is simple "Sorry but my DH has made arrangements for us to go out. You know how important it is to spend time together."