Looking for some reassurance here, and also need to have a mil related rant.....
Ds is 18 weeks old. Most of the time when he is whinging I can figure out what is wrong - hungry, tired, wet, wind etc. But sometimes I can't. Sometimes he gets himself into a state, I try all manner of things to soothe him, then he calms down and I am unsure which, if any, of the things I tried made any difference, and so am left none the wiser about what was wrong. Is this normal? Or does it mean I dont know/haven't bonded with him well enough? (I feel I have bonded, he is amazing and I am tired but also loving motherhood).
It is my mil who has triggered these worries, I think, as she is always so absolutely certain what the problem is. Eg " obviously his teeth are bothering him...." etc? Really? How can she be so sure?
At the weekend I was bf ds, and at the minute he is getting really distracted during his daytime feeds, pulling off, looking around etc, and I explained this to mil. Not long after, he fell asleep. Then later on, I was feeding him again, and he was less distracted. Mil pipes up " he's feeding much better now, he was too tired to do it before. Well, um, I feed him to sleep every night so I don't get how he can be too tired to feed, but she was so smug and certain that she had correctly diagnosed the problem, as if she knows him better than I do!
So, is it normal to feel as if this is a guessing game most of the time? Will I get better at it? feeling my confidence has been knocked ATM.