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to feel a little sad?

13 replies

NoobyNoob · 26/05/2011 22:56

I've just been out for dinner with some ex-work friends. We were extremely close 18 months ago, but I then left to have my DS and we've drifted apart since then.

They've now got their partners, houses and other various things going on, and it was just one of those things where we couldn't all get the same day free IYSWIM.

So, tonight had been sorted for a month and it was so amazing. It was like we began where we left off. It was one of those nights whre we spoke about anything and everything.

I've come home, and the plates are still in the sink where DH had given DS his dinner. Toys were left everywhere, and there a nice big pile of washing that's been left for me to hang out.

I now feel, just....sad. Sad that, although the job itself was utter shit, the friends I made were amazing. I get so lonely being a SAHM, even though we go out on a regular basis.

I just wish, that tomorrow I could go to work, wear my size 12 jeans, gossip by the vending machine, feel like I'm making a contribution and make plans with my friends without having to arrange it months in advance.

Sorry, I'm waffling. I think I need to just go to bed.

OP posts:
LadyThumb · 26/05/2011 22:58

Put the dirty plates, toys and washing IN DH's side of the bed - then you'll feel better!

worraliberty · 26/05/2011 23:00

Aww that does sound sad if you feel that way Sad

You are making a contribution though...possibly the most important one of your whole life if you're contributing towards your child with your time and love. You will never ever get that time back again...however there'll be plenty time to work again in the future.

Meglet · 26/05/2011 23:00

yanbu. I stayed until the end of parents evening the other day as I hardly get to go out Blush.

I have to say I don't like it when toys are all over the floor after the dc's have gone to bed, washing up is a PITA, but it's not hard to throw toys in a box.

AgentZigzag · 26/05/2011 23:00

It's just so deflating isn't it?

Really...urgh.

Sounds like you need to either get yourself out more, or find something that'll give you that spark to make life interesting.

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NoobyNoob · 26/05/2011 23:03

I just miss friends! Sounds so pathetic doesn't it!

I sometimes wonder if I made he right choice, but then if I went to work I'd wish I was at home! I can never find that medium.

It was just so, so lovely to see them.

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LordOfTheFlies · 26/05/2011 23:12

Oh the grass is always greener isn't it? I bet if you asked your work-mates some of them would be jealous of you having a lovely DS. They don't get to see the behind the scenes though.
I work 3 days so have the work/home balance ( well that's the theory anyway) but you have to be organised to have professional days/mum days.

Punkatheart · 26/05/2011 23:18

You are not pathetic. I understand entirely. It can be a lonely old life. I know that it's not the same - but there are some lovely (and daft!) people on here to hang around with whenever.

You need a passion, a hobby - something to really put your heart into...

Portofino · 26/05/2011 23:23

no-one seems to have mentioned that you might have felt one hell of a lot better if your dh hadn't just left everything for you to do when you got back.

IprivateI · 26/05/2011 23:26

Maybe DH had been busy with DS. It's a well known fact men can't multi task, although TBH my DH is great when I go out.

Thingumy · 26/05/2011 23:26

I agree with port.

If I had a good night out and came home to mess and dishe, I'd feel like saying 'fuck this'

Have a chat with dh OP

He needs to pull his weight.

cat64 · 26/05/2011 23:30

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Scholes34 · 26/05/2011 23:50

It's 11.30 pm and I've just finished the ironing, after making two dozen cupcakes and a birthday cake. Now back at work 25 hours a week, and have been for the past five years after a six year gap from work as a SAHM. Met some lovely people doing the toddler group rounds and through school. Have met some lovely people at my new work place.

Sounds like it was a great evening. I doubt if you were still working that life with your work colleagues would always be like that. Enjoy and make the most of the here and now and what life as a SAHM gives you. One day you'll look back at this time and want to be there again!

Fecklessdizzy · 26/05/2011 23:52

Gah. Sad poor you.

I remember that well! It does get better, though ... DC's get bigger and you get a bit of your life back.

Mind you I get the very same feeling now when I get back from work all knackered and there's crap everywhere and the grots still in the sink and the DP emerges from his inner sanctum looking shifty and saying " Um ... The DS's seem to have invited 20 friends for a sleepover and no-ones had any supper yet and I've just got to nip over to Insert Name Of Useless Man Friend's to fix his thing ... Wait, put down the blunt instrument! Angry "

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