AIBU?
to be a bit miffed at my friend's DH?
LeoTheLateBloomer · 26/05/2011 17:39
He wasn't working today (she was) so I invited him and their DD over for lunch.
They've been really supportive recently with my marriage breaking up and we were talking about it. He always refers to my friend as 'the management' or 'the boss' (she definitely wears the trousers) but today he made it clear that he felt very downtrodden and unhappy. As soon as he said it he saw that I was very uncomfortable and he said "oh I'd better not say any more".
I have no intention of saying anything to my friend but I feel like he's put me in a really difficult position now, knowing that's how he feels 
betterwhenthesunshines · 26/05/2011 17:54
Maybe he doesn't have anyone else to off load to? After all if he talks to you and you encourage him to talk to his wife you could ultimately be helping her out. If her marriage goes belly-up she won't be v. happy so ultimately you will be more loyal to her?
By all means ask him to limit the details, but if you don't know what he was going to say you could be worrying over nothing.
YANBU to not want to get too involved but YABU that he can't have a grumble about the state of his life - that's what friends are for sometimes :o
Birdsgottafly · 26/05/2011 17:59
If you are friends with both of them then there is no reason to repeat it. He might be feeling a bit down but that doesn't mean that is how he always feels. We all have a moan from time to time about our DP's. If you are uncomfy with this line of conversation then leave it well alone and pretend it never happened.
magicmelons · 26/05/2011 18:00
If i was newly single i would feel very uncomfortable if my friends Dh was telling me how unhappy he was in his marriage, its a line i wouldn't want to cross. You did the right thing i would avoid having this sort of relationship with him.
He probably sees you as a friend but your friends with her so it is inappropriate he needs to get his own friends for bitching and moaning, we all have one for that purpose. I give out about my Dh and have forgotten all about it a week later. I wouldn't worry about saying anything to your friend.
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