to not want my MIL to visit so often?

[workinggally]

It's her first gc and she wants to visit really often at first it was say twice a week, then weekly, now a few times a month. She stays ages. I've never got on with her. But I want my own mother round because he is really helpful and gives me a break but my partner thinks there should be some sort of "equal access for grandparents" thing. I'm sure if she had other gc she would be like this.

Looks like she's abandoned this thread too. Good luck sterlising the cat Honeybee!!

Molly, you put the OP's nickname in the search box in the top right hand corner and search for them (at least, that's how I do it)

Thank you honeybee! I always wondered how people did that :)
This one was a bit easier as the OP has posted pretty prolifically and all have been either very PFB posts or a bit

well that is simple-lol, thanks!

if it was several times a week for 12hrs at a time and she expected to be waited on by you while she fed your baby rusks in a bottle then left your baby to cry on it's own upstairs for 3hrs to get it into a routine then i may think there are issues which need addressing.

your mil sounds perfectly normal. there are plenty of new mums who'd give their right arm for a doting granny who comes to visit and show an interest in her grandchild on a regular basis.

Thanks queen.....am off for a bit to sort out dd for bed but I shall return in the hope of more crazy interesting threads..... (hooray for dp working lates tonight,plenty of baby free mnet time)

No problem glad to be of help :)

Oh lordy it's you again

You really are a charmer aren't you!?

I can't see the problem but I agree with your OH equal access for grandparents as MIL's can get a wee tad competitive and hurt over how much they see their grandchildren.

I think OP has already name changed and started another thread, but I'm just going to keep my suspicions to myself for now so that I don't risk offending a genuine poster or have mumsnet ban me for troll hunting

Ooo jenga I'm intrigued but also don't want to be banned

I think shes started a few other threads

I agree very similar posting styles.....why is troll hunting banned anyway?

Ignore question, I'm new and hadn't read troll policy, I have now though

my mil dont give a shit about me has only been here once i been married for years.

very ungrateful if you ask me you may like your mum best but i am sure your lo loves both his grans

I think Op should change her name to "Notworkinggally", because all she has done today from work is post wind-up threads.

That made me snigger squeaky .....also my ipad auto changes snigger to sniffer which made me snigger again! Maybe dp working late isn't such a good idea after all, all this alone time with mnet is making me more loopy haha

YABU and you seem slightly unhinged.

Oh is this the person who's friend swapped teethers around?

Ooo which thread is that one on?I like ops threads, they are amusing. Wish she would come back as herself I'm having withdrawal!

In these situations, and looniness aside, I think it is helpful to think how YOU would wanted to be treated one day when you are the MIL.

But yes, OP, you seem a bit in need of help to me. I would speak to your HV if you are genuinely upset about all these issues. It is not normal.