In a complete flip to the usual post on here, my DH commented the other day that he thinks this would be a good idea. I replied that I didn't think it was a good idea, and he's been a bit short with me ever since.
We're 29 and 30, with one 16 month DD. We have a form of contraception (the implant) which works and which I wouldn't be keen to have removed in any case as it's stopped my periods completely for the last year, and with them, the horrendous migraines they triggered.
He says it (the snip) would make him happier, because he 'can't ever see himself with more DC than DD' and doesn't want the risk of an accident.
I agree that, right now, another child is a no-no, but I (and I thought this was we until this conversation!) haven't ruled it out completely for the future.
I think we, and DD, are far too young for any decision that final to be made. I just don't see the need for such a drastic step.
His reply to that was, 'well, it's not your decision, is it? I'll think about it.'
I don't, for one second, think he would actually do it without my agreement, but I'm shocked he'd consider doing it. We've been a couple for going on 13 years, btw, and have had endless conversations about kids/no kids etc where he's never ever indicated this kind of feeling before.
I know he has the right to say he wants no more kids - and, if in a few years, that was still his answer, I'd respect that - but this feels too soon for so definite a take. AIBU to say he should wait until DD is in school - so, four years - and see how we feel then. I'd support him at that time, as I'm not keen to be having kids past mid-thirties anyway.
Sorry, it's long, but there's always the 'by stealth' risk!