To cancel meeting at school 30 mins before it's due?

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ok, ds(11) is in year 7 and although being bright and polite won't stop chatting in classes and getting excited and shouting out answers.....he keeps getting told off, his tutor has asked to meet with ds and me to chat about how he can control himself before he goes inti year 8... We agreed last week to meet today just after 3....

Dd is 18 months and was up at 4 for an hour, only napped for 30 mins this morning instead of her usual 2 hours but was tired after lunch and fell asleep 10 mins ago in her cot... To go to school I would need to wake her at about 2:40 at the latest so she would only have had about half an hour again... This may impact her sleep tonight (it's only in the last week that she been sleeping from 7pm to 5/6am and we have an early start tomorrow as I have work all day and 2 assignments due in tomorrow!)....

Anyway aibu to phone and cancel the meeting? It's half term next week so would need to wait until after then to meet up....

YABU. Your dd will catch up on her sleep and your ds's education is more important at this stage.

What happens next time she falls asleep on the rearranged appt?

I would not cancel it tbh.

Unfortunately, I think YABU - you need to make this time for you older dc. Won't DD sleep in the buggy/sling/carseat?

I can understand why you want to cancel, having been there myself. But honestly have a child in class as you describe is a nightmare and it needs to be sorted out. I know school is out next week, but they were probably hoping to have a plan worked out for when your ds returns. Could a neighbour not come in and sit with your dd while she sleeps?

YABU but I feel for you.

yabu - making a rod for your own back. We took our dc wherever we needed to go, day or night. Life was much easier than all the hanging around waiting for baby to have their nap.

YABU. In this case, your DS's education comes first.

YABU, I hate it when parents fail to show or cancel at the last minute when I've rearranged stuff to give them a slot. I'd have you down as a fairly indifferent parent to your older child.if you cancelled on the grounds of 'Oh, it may impact on my 18 month old's sleep pattern'
Although that does tend to make me more tolerant and forgiving towards the child I'm teaching. I thing 'Poor little beggar, we know where you are in the chain of importance.'

i wouldnt cancel, this is fairly important for your older boy

I was thinking it would be bad to cancel so I won't... I agree it's important to be there for ds! Thank you for confirming that I won't be an awful mummy for waking dd up!!

Good decission.Hope the meeting's o.k.Best of luck. Mx.

I agree I think the meeting is a priority over an extra bit of sleep!!!!! Your DS needs to know that his behaviour at school is a priority too!!

Well the meeting was good, ds us going to try and stop fidgeting and his tutor is going to remind him each day until the new habit is formed!

Dd just sat in her buggy throwing raisins on the floor!!

Thanks for updating

At least you got it out of the way and you can now enjoy half term.