to think that unless your invited somewhere you shouldnt turn up!!!!

[loosingthewilltoo]

my lovely man is very socialble most of his friends dont have children.

And theres a friend who hs just return from oz i dont know her and there having a get together and we havent been asked by her if we're going.

i don't really know alot of them very well as im in with the children, but he wants to go but im thinking we shouldnt go as she hasn't asked us! i'm pretty nervous about going and ive tried to get my point across that i feel uncomfortable as i havent been invited. i dont want it causing a problem when we have had a drink on sat else will turn into a row and i'll be left on my own feeling paranoid!

Loosing, are you living with my DP? He also tells me he doesn't have the 'life he used to'. I point out that no, he doesn't. He now has me, a great job, lovely flat and (soon!) a baby. And that surely, is much better than living in barracks and going out and getting drunk every weekend? Actually, he agrees. It's just sometimes easier to look back with rose tinted nostalgia glasses!

And the mere fact that the other women have bodies that children weren't grown in tells you that DP chose you; he loves you and wants you to go the social events with him

Sorry, just reread that and realised that you feel guilty that he doesn't have the life he used to (sorry, I'm loving the italics today!) He's right: it doesn't matter, presumably because his life is better now.