sinking...........can't cope...............what to do?

[KidderminsterKate]

pg, single and I really am not coping

behind with work which is NOT good given job situation

am snappy with kids, house is a pit, money is going to be a disaster

everythings unravelling

not sure why I'm typing this

Hello Kate,
I didnt want to leave your post unanswered. Sorry you are feeling down.

Do you have any RL support nearby to you ?

Are you looking for a sympathetic ear or some advice. Can do either!

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Have a rant.

Split things into small and achievable goals. Houses can be pits as long as they're safe. Money worries can be sorted - look around for ways people are saving on everything as much as possible.

And let it out. That's honestly the best thing you can do.

Hi there, sorry you are feeling so low.

Take things one step at a time, plan your day at work and at home so you know what you are doing and when, factor in time for you to destress and unwind.

If you need someone to talk to on a regular basis start a thread on relationships and talk, there are great people there who can help you get through the dark times and reach the other side.

thanks

I dont really know if i want sympathy or advice...maybe both!

I do have family but they dont know about the pg yet

i just want my husband back tbh.....thought I was ok with this but hormones seem to be bringing it all back

They do that hormones. Is there any chance of a reconciliation?

You poor thing. Lots on your plate, no wonder you feel overwhelmed.

What advice do you think you are after. As Fabby says, if it's the H, then Relationships is great

i dont know if theres much chance tbh....not unless he gets much better.

He developed serious mental health problems and ended up being sectionned. Still under psychiatric care. I want him back minus his psychosis. He is/ was amazing....his illness hides all that and I feel guilty for seperating from him.

Occasionally when they've got his meds right and/or he's taken them he is him again. Thats when I want to cry for what we've lost. He sometimes knows whats happened in this lucid state and thinks if he can control it if he tries. He cant.

The children dont really understand - they just want daddy. I want them to have the daddy they deserve.

Kate, sounds like you're going through a really hard time. MN is great for a sympathetic ear, had lots of support when I was in a similar position. How old are your DC?

Is it possible to talk to family soonish. I think the sooner you tell them what's happening and how you feel the sooner you will get support.

Take an evening to make a plan...I find a fresh notebook makes me feel better. Then I list each room, step by step, and what needs doing in it. Do the same with my study plans too. Also, do whatever you need to make life easier. The kids will survive having ping food for a few weeks while you get yourself together and take a breather.

Holy cow! Sorry, x posted with you. You Really have a lot on your plate. Even more reason to ask for help. From professionals too if you feel able.

There's no doubt that things are very tough for you. Having been pregnant with an ill DH in the past, I know only too well how things can get on top of you. You need to call in as much help as you can. The other thing you need is time

So sorry for the circumstances surrounding your husband not being around, it can take a while for the right medication to be found, but I hope they find it really soon and that he can get back to being him again. Must be really hard, you can get continued support if you post in Relationships.

Hi Kate could not read and run, have you been and had a good chat with your GP ?
They might be able to offer psychological support and can also write letters on your behalf to other agencies if required.
Contact council tax to get your single person deduction 25% I think.
Talk to health visitor, is there extra nursery time available to let you rest a bit?
Would you qualify for DLA for your Husband? Not sure how that all weorks.
You could contact MIND the mental health charity they might know of resources close to you.
Unless your family are a pita it might be worth telling them about the pregnancy, they might surprise you and help a bit.
Could work cut you a bit of slack? Remember your GP can sign you of if required.
How old are your other kids?
hugs x

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