Friend who lives overseas is having some big problems with work, or specifically, inability to find it. I have been very sympathetic and prepared to lend a listening ear but she's been unable to find a permanent job for the best part of three years despite being ridiculously well qualified and I'm getting to the end of my tether listening to her talking about it without really facing up to the fact that she's in totally the wrong market and should be a bit less picky. She calls about twice a week long distance wanting to have conversations that routinely go on for an hour and a half about the job market where she lives and the minutiae of her attempts to land a job. I have a three and a half month old dd and with the best will in the world I just don't have timeor patience for it. She doesn't ever take hints (the baby is crying, my dinner will be ready in five minutes, my DH is about to slit his wrists, etc) and its impossible to get a word in edgeways anyway so I kind of feel like I may as well not be there a lot of the time.
I'm rather bemused as to why someone who lives thousands of miles away and is up to their neck in nappy changes and nursery rhymes is the most appropriate person to give her advice on this situation and can only conclude that there isn't anyone else closer to home. Which makes me feel guilty and sorry for her but there are only so many hours in the week. She isn't even a particularly close friend, someone I like but haven't known that long. I don't even get to speak to family members as often as twice a week for an hour and a half each, let alone good friends. I'm starting to dread the calls and my DH is beginning to get resentful.
Should I just screen calls or should I try to tell her, tactfully, that I like her and value her as a friend but she is beginning to violate me a bit? Or is it part of my duty as a friend to do these calls.