Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to make DD's packed lunch for her?

18 replies

knockinonyerdoor · 25/05/2011 10:36

DD is 13. She's always had packed lunches for school, and since she was 5 I've made them up in the morning while she's getting ready for school. It takes 2 mins and I do it while the kettle is boiling for my second cuppa of the day.

My friend is totally shocked that I don't make DD do it.

TBH it's never even crossed my mind. It's a two minute job and I don't mind. It's not like I'm cleaning up a huge mess that she's made, or putting her clothes away for her, I'm just making her lunch in the same way that I make her dinner - out of habit because it's my job as a mum!

OP posts:
FabbyChic · 25/05/2011 10:37

I made packed lunches for my kids at that age, and I would have continued to do it until they left school. Whats wrong with making your kids a packed lunch?

squeakytoy · 25/05/2011 10:38

I made them for my stepkids, and still make them for my husband. I am the one who does the shopping, so I am the one who knows what is meant for what in the fridge, so it is much easier if I do it.. and quicker, and less mess.

taylor74 · 25/05/2011 10:39

Ignore your friend if your happy doing them and you know she likes them abd they are healthy carry on. If you allowed a 13 yr old to make it it would be full of junk. My mom made mine when I was still in college bless her.

ggirl · 25/05/2011 10:39

yanbu
i did for dd at this age
can't remember when i stopped ,prob few yrs later

SarkyLady · 25/05/2011 10:40

As long as she does some jobs then it really doesn't matter which ones she does.

Scholes34 · 25/05/2011 10:44

DH and I (a bit of team work) do the three DCs' packed lunches (14, 12 and 10) and DH's packed lunch every morning (I get a free lunch at work :o). More often than not DD makes everyone's sandwiches on a Saturday and does lots of other things to help around the house. Swings and roundabouts. YANBU. Your friend just has a different relationship with her DCs.

verybored · 25/05/2011 10:46

I still do DS's and he's 14. I did think of getting him to do them but I am a SAHM and also do them for the younger children and for DH, so just leaving out DS would be very mean!

My mum always did mine and I have still grown up knowing how to make a sandwich Smile

Original poster
knockinonyerdoor · 25/05/2011 10:50

Oh good, I thought I was being PFB after 13 years... Grin

I think it was more my friend's attitude -she was all Shock "you do WHAT?"

Mind you, she was also shocked that DD doesn't have any 'official' chores. I just ask her when I want something done, and she does it. I think DF's DCs have lists Grin

OP posts:
worraliberty · 25/05/2011 10:52

I always make my nearly 12yr old's and my 8yr olds' packed lunches. It doesnt' mean he can't do it himself...infact we slept in last week and he made his own and his brother's while I made breakfast.

LoopyLoopsBettyBoops · 25/05/2011 10:56

I moved from one foster placement to another at the age of 16. In the first, I could make my own lunch if I wanted it (out of very meagre offerings). At the new home, my foster mum made my lunch for me, and used nice bread etc. I never ate lunch for the entire two years I lived in the first placement. I always ate lunch for the following two years.

Therefore, YANBU.

jaffacake79 · 25/05/2011 10:56

What's so wrong with making their lunch?
I make lunches the night before as I'm notoriously rubbish in the mornings, I make dd's and dh's, and it really is only a 5 minute job. I buy the food, I organise the fridge, so I know what is meant for whom and when. If it was left to dd or dh then they'd use god knows what that was meant for the next night's dinner or something ridiculous.

HughManatee · 25/05/2011 11:00

I do DD's, but then she helps me out, cleans the bath, hoovers, etc, so it probably balances out.

upahill · 25/05/2011 11:02

Dh does the packed lunch duties.

We have no problem with this because DS1 will sometimes have tea on for us if we are late home, DS1 and 2 both can sort the washing out and get the washing done. Sometime like last night I will get home and Ds2 will have put the uniforms through the wash.
I may rilng up and say I'm running late today will one of yous hoover the living room and one do the bath room.

Sure I moan about plates being left out or pop bottles not put back but generally we all do something for each other.
See to me it's all swings and roundabouts.

lubberlich · 25/05/2011 11:07

Of course YANBU.
Isnt this what families do? Make stuff and do things for each other.
I have an old schoolfriend who has rotas for everything - like a bloody flat share.
Awful.

Melly19MummyToBe · 25/05/2011 11:23

Me and DP do his pack up, he puts everything into his lunchbag but he refuses to do the sandwiches because "they just don't taste right" if I make him do them himself. So I make his sarnies and he does everything else.

blackeyedsusan · 25/05/2011 11:29

wow, think yourself lucky that she does other stuff around the house. 13 year olds should help out around the place, what they do is up to your family. yanbu.

mrsbunnthebaker · 25/05/2011 11:36

i make my 20 somethings lunch and also sometimes husbands if required

so what, is it a big deal?

do you tell your children they have to make all their own meals individually?

NadiaWadia · 25/05/2011 12:38

YANBU

(your friend is weird)

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread