to want to be told I look nice?

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I put on 4 stones when I was pregnant with number 3. Amongst other things, my husband was in intensive care for the first 6 weeks of the pregnancy, and then I was crippled with SPD. The baby will be 1 next month. I am back to 10stone, I am running 4 miles a couple of times a week and I have a nice haircut.

We're going on our hols next week, and I went and bought some new undies. Nice lacy ones. Not breastfeeding ones as I'm now only BFing at night. I revealed them to my husband, with me in them, and a nice new pair of heels I had just bought. Again, the first for what, 18 months? He laughed.

And then started talking to me about the slight drain smell in the bathroom.

Maybe he's nervous he won't keep up with you?
Or is he the sort who feels it goes without saying?
YANBU though, I'd be pissed off too.

oh dear. poor you.
well done for the weight loss........you should be very proud of yourself

I think you look lovely.

What was he in intensive care with? Could it have turned him into a twat is what I'm saying.

Oh & well done on losing the weight etc.

Yanbu. Don't bottle it up - tell him what a prat he is.

I know this probably doesn't help..... but the one thing that bucked my ideas up when I forgot how gorgeous my XP was when another man took interest in her.

Thank-you! He's not normally a prat, he's normally very nice. I wouldn't tolerate long term prattishness.

Ursula - swine flu. Illest person not to die in the south west. Don't think it turned him into a pig though.

YANBU You already know you look amazing, go look in the mirror again and admire yourself! Well done on all the fitness, do not let this reaction (and who knows why, just make it clear he has a good thing and should notice) put any chink in your fabulous new confidence. Oh and you look great btw!

I think you sound gorgeous too and you are really doing more than I am to keep lovely!

He had a boorish moment. Trust in your own beauty.

Oh in that case I'd have swung low & used that line as a put down when he laughed: 'do you think there's still some pig in you?!' etc.

What sort of laugh?

A nervous giggle?

An absent minded wheeze?

A taunting gruffaw?

Did he point and laugh, doubled over with tears streaming from his eyes?

Or did he throatily chuckle in anticipation of what was coming later?

Did he know he was supposed to be bowled over by your new sexy self?

Did you teeter sexily in while he was up to his armpits in drains?

Need more info.

What kind of laugh was it OP?

Was it a taking the piss type laugh or a nervous one? Makes a lot of difference.....

Xposted with you aubergine

To be honest, I think it was probably shock.

It was the drains comment that really sealed his fate.

Oh that's just blokes for you, mine won't stop talking to me about his work despite me telling him it bores me to tears, and he explains all the ins and outs of his DIY when I don't care just put the fucking kitchen in, ok???