To activley try and start my family now....

[Kayano]

.... just so I can be off work for the whole of the Olympics?

I'm new in the sense that I'm a first time poster but I am a long time lurker (not a troll and scared of being accused :S )
We are trying to start our family as soon as possible so I joined here to get advise (all amazing so far!)

Anyway, this actually came out of my mouth today as a reason why were were trying for a family now. Obviously this is not a good reason to start a family, but I find myself trying to deal with TTC by not taking it seriously in front of others. I feel like if I tell people how much this means to me I will get depressed if it doesn't happen so I try to detatch myself from why I really want a family.

(Long story involving adoption, long lost full sister who I have never met etc...)

AIBU to do this and did anyone else struggle to let people know how much a family means to them?

How long have you been trying?

yanbu butyou may offend people who have been trying for ages by being flippant. good luck

Haven't been trying too long

I know it is flippant an a way, but I feel like in real life I can't say how much I want it IYSWIM. It's not even remotely true despite my love of sport.

Who are you telling about your TTC? It is no ones business but yours. The first anyone knew about any of our babies was when we announced it after the first scan, we didnt ever share the fact that we were TTC. It just sets you up for too many people nosing into your life and business.

If you are trying to convince yourself that you are not really emotionally invested then I can see why, we all have our defence mechanisms to protect ourselves from potential hurt. But it wont work, because you are emotionally invested and you know that.

that sounded harsh and I didnt mean it to.

I meant that if you keep it to yourself that you are TTC then you dont need to say anything about why you are doing it, flippant or not, and you know yourself why you are really doing it so no need to try and convince yourself either.

Good luck, I hope it happens for you soon :)

I understand you wanting to be flippant in front of people, but as others said you do risk upsetting someone.

Why do you need to tell anyone about TTC? It's a private matter. We didn't tell anyone, even my parents (who we were still living with) - I was only 19 and I knew people would judge me, but it was none of their beeswax really :o