To think this is a really rubbish present, while appreciating the kindness of giving a present at all

[emkana]

friend has a dd a bit older than mine(11). this girl had a raincoat she didn't like anymore, having only worn it a couple of times. Friend gave it to me for dd, but after short consideration I gave it back without showing it to dd because dd didn't really need a raincoat. Today friend turns up with birthday present for dd, saying "a present I'm sure dd will like" - and it is the blooming coat...

. either friend is scatty or gobsmackingly rude. my good friend occasionally would give cast offs/unsuitable presents as gift for my dc, but never without asking my permission first!!!

That is rather unkind of your friend

it's very funny - you have to tell her if she has a sence of humour

Why did your DD not need the raincoat?

If she's a bit younger then there's time for her to grow into it, and even if she's got one already, why not have two?

Friend a bit odd if she remembers you giving it her back to give it to your DD as a birthday pressie, but I think you not taking it in the first place (or even asking your DD if she wants it, can she not decide for herself at 9/10 YO ) is also a bit weird.

We are a family of five, our house is filled to the brim with stuff as it is, and especially the coat rack, so I didn't see the need for a spare raincoat.