..to not expect my deceased mams partner to use her facebook page?

[zelda1982]

My mam died last Sunday and since then her partner has been using her facebook, mostly to update about funeral etc which i'm not that fussed about, but a few times he has "chatted" to me in her name. When i see her name pop up my heart skips a beat, i know its silly but for 1 split second i think it was all a dream and here she is talking to me.

I dont know how to ask him to stop (or even whether i should) Mam was with his 10 years, living together (300 miles from me) for 6.5 years so maybe he has a right to do as he pleases? I dont want to cancel her page as its nice to remember her by and write silly little messages "to" her.

This is my 1st post on MN so go easy

Thanks everyone, he has not done it today but if he does it again i'll have a word with him.

to pp (sorry forgot your name) Zelda isn't my real name, its my cats name :)

So sorry to hear of your loss

I'm sure you can turn peoples facebook pages into memorial/remeberance pages if you ask the fb people to do it. Maybe you could have a look through the help sections of fb and find out how it's done, then suggest it to your Mum's DP. It might be an easier or gentler way of getting him to stop chatting on her page, and it's quite a nice thing to do if your Mum is still on facebook. People can leave messages for her and your family still I think.

Sorry, have I got this right, he told you about your mother's death by TEXT????????
I'm so sorry.

He sent me a text message between her dying at 10.30am and 1pm but as i'd accidently turned my phone off i didnt get it (he could of rang my house phone) then at 1pm i went onto facebook and there it was on my mams facebook page that she had died. So i actually found out via facebook.

Either one of them is disgraceful! If he couldn't have told you in person, then at the very least it should have been by telephone. And no message should have been left anywhere until you, her daughter, had been informed.

He lives 300 miles away so couldn't do it in person (which is the only reason i wasnt there with her) I realise he was also grieving (he said he's never cried at his own mothers and brothers funeral but was sobbing his heart out when my mam died) I could have handled a text, not facebook though.

So sorry about your mum.
I think using the page to sort out the funeral is ok, but I think you need to tell him that the chat is upsetting you