to ask for this for my birthday?

[Bogeyface]

My birthday is next week and my mum has asked what I want. I know what she normally spends (we have a budget agreement) and I want her to give me the money so I can split it between DD1 and 2 for school trips they are going on.

I agreed and paid for the trips some months ago but since then we have had some real problems and it has impacted us moneywise and finding spending money for them will be difficult, although not impossible. The best present she could give me is to take away some of that worry by giving my birthday money to them, but I know she will object on the grounds that it is my birthday and I should get something. I think she will do it but then buy me something aswell which I dont want her to do.

AIBU to ask for this for my birthday present and what can I do to make sure she doesnt buy me anything else aswell?

If she can afford to help you out, let her if she is happy to do so.

You would do the same for your kids wouldnt you?

No

I agree with squeaky. But YANBU to ask this but you can't stop her to treat you if she can, she is your mum .

i always put myself in the other persons shoes with things like this

so, think, as a mum yourself, later down the line, YOUR child asks you this, would you be happy to give the money for your grandchilds school trip? and would you also get pleasure in buying them something for their birthday, knowing they were struggling for cash? course you would, whats so different about your mum doing the same?