Dds have recently joined a dance group. I originally struggled to find something for dd1 because she has mild sn, and other places had been too competitive and she couldn't keep up.
So when I went and spoke to the lady running this dance group i asked if she needed to be any good, and she said no, it was all-inclusive, several children with disabilities, and they did things like carnivals rather than competitions. She said all they asked for was commitment and reliability, which isn't a problem, we do that for ds' football. I didn't realise that they took them from 4 as well, so dd2 also ended up going.
It's a very reasonable weekly cost, but they needed quite a bit of uniform to start up, so my upfront costs were quite hefty.
A few weeks in, she gives me a (very extensive) list of events. I glanced through them, and said yes we should be able to make the majority of them. And she said quite sharply, no, I need you to make ALL of them. I said that we had a holiday booked for May halfterm, and would probably be away at some point in the summer too. She grumpily wrote down the May one.
Well, now we've booked for August and I've gone to her with the dates, and she's said 'you'll have to change that, I can't have them away for the bank holiday weekend.' Obviously, I've refused. Apart from anything else it's my birthday on the bank holiday, but ffs it's hard enough organising holidays around school etc. She's started grumbling that there's not much point coming then.
Yes, I said we could be commited, but I honestly didn't think that meant EVERY single date. Ds goes to 95% of football things, and they tend not to clash with holidays, but when he can't make it I just tell them, and they're fine about it.