to be shocked to read one of my old mumsnet posts in the Times?

[Nikkid21]

It's literally just stopped me in my tracks. Reading the extract from the mumsnet rules book in the review section and one of my posts (from a previous posting name) appears.

I thoght that I would have least got an email from the team here if they planned to use it in the book.

I'm a bit upset to be honest as the post was made when i was in the middle of a bout of depression and reads as though I hate being with my kids.

Am I being unreasonable to have expected mumsnet to contact me and / or be upset considering it's an anonymous id and not even the one that I use now?

no one except you knows its you so pretty irrelevant really

I don't think YABU but MNHQ would say that once you post they can use what you said how they want.

By posting in an anonymous name, but on a public forum, anyone in the world could be reading it anyway.

It is probably in the t & c's when you registered that your posts can be used anywhere.

I thought anything we write on a public message board is fair game as source material for journos etc. Hence why it pays to be careful what you write.

Hmmm... Whilst I can see how you feel - no one really knows it was you so try not to worry and take comfort that what you have Said may help some one else in a similar position

There's a bit at the top of 'Talk' that says they have non-exclusive copyright on all posts...

I can understand you being upset but IMO yabu as this is a public forum and I'm assuming you aren't identified by your real i.d. Had they used your real name I would agree they should have contacted you. Try not to let it get to you, you must have made a good point relevant to many mums for them to include you :)

noone will know it's you so whats the problem...

They can't email everyone who'se words they use. It's theirs once it's on here.

Previously they've said as above.

ok - i'm a idiot to think that I might get an email. Guess i'll just chalk it up to experience.

Have just looked up the full post and they've cropped it so that the second bit that I wrote about how things have improved isn't posted. It's been edited to make a point that's not in the true spirit of the original post.

YABU

There's a warning on the front page:

Please note that Mumsnet has non-exclusive copyright in all submissions to Mumsnet Talk, and reserves the right to edit and re-publish these in print form.

It happens alot. The Beckham's were apparently considering sending their boys ot Haberdashes Askes (spelling?) school on their return home from the USA. There was an uproar about how they're too common to send their DC's there. MNetter CrazygracieUK was quoted in the newspaper for saying exactly that. It happens all the time.

This is a public forum how niave and silly to think that a post could not be taken by anyone. If you don't want people to know what you have written then don't write it in the first place. Blunt and harsh ...maybe but true

yabu and there have been other books so it's nothing new.

Personally I can't WAIT to see if I'm in there