To think this woman was bloody rude?

[Beckyitisthen]

Just had a lovely few hrs with dh and my 2dc walking around Stratford upon Avon. Any how just walking along minding my own business when a woman in front of me, probably in her mid 50s falls over right by me, she landed all sprawled out on the pavement. As I was right behind her I thought I should ask if she was injured and offered out my hand to help her try and stand. With that she shoved my hand away and told me in a very short tone that she did not need my help and that her husband would get her up!
I know she probably just felt really embarrassed but she should be more embarrassed of the fact she was damn rude :-(

Think you should cut her a bit of slack.

She was probably just a bit upset and reacted badly like everyone does sometimes. Don't take it personally.

I do agree that she may have been in pain, and it really didn't spoil my day but I just think her reaction was rude. She didn't know me from Adam and if she was hurt then I could of helped . It's a flight or fight reaction this sort of thing and if I'd of just walked on by what sort of person would that make me? I nurse people all of my working life and there are plenty of people who suffer the most appalling health problems that are not rude. When I looked back she was back on her feet so I think she was ok though.

If she really didn't want the OP's help she could have just said "thank you but I'd prefer it if my husband could help me up."

But people react differently to pain. I would really hope I'd be polite myself, but if she was in a lot of pain, she may not have wanted you to touch her, that's quite a common reaction.

I'm sorry you felt upset by it, but I'm just trying to say, it seems to me that there are lots of situations where people are really, deliberately rude, and this may not have been one of them. I'd probably feel upset if I were you too, but there's plenty of reasons to put it behind you.

No excuse for being so rude when you were being kind. Some people are just very odd.

reading this thread reminds me of this incident...someone else who got arsey being helped up after she fell!

She will have been shocked and embarrassed about the fall and it makes some people react badly.

When I was at school my best friend cut her finger, not badly but enough for a little bit of blood a plaster would have taken care of.

You'd have thought she'd cut the finger off, she screamed and cried and swore and threatened to hit anyone who touched her before throwing up and passing out cold.

She was usually so quiet and polite and shy but the reaction was extreme and a bit scary.

YANBU. The woman was rude but she's very likely feeling very ashamed of herself right now. As other people have said, it's no excuse for being rude but at least you know you did the right thing by offering to help and she is the one who really does have something to be embarrassed about now she's had time to calm down and think about how rude she was.

YANBU in that she was rude. I fell over a couple of days ago, in the fashion you describe (full of dignity and class ). It really bloody hurt, and still hurts now. Still, I was not rude to the person who kindly offered to help me up.

Do you look a dodgy sort? She might have thought you were going to relieve her of her purse.

'do you look a dodgy sort?'

you can just imagine the op going 'oh yes thats the problem, I do look like a mugger'

at Trinity.

Mind you though, my brother (who has a full black bead like a pirate and is built like brick shithouse after years of rowing) has been known to reassure people he's a mathematician, not a terrorist/ robber.

beard, even. A black bead: not so scary.

He does know he looks like a criminal, though.

dp looks like a thug too bless him

tall, broad, tattoed and shaved head

(he shaves it cause hes bald on top but dont tell anyone )

I do like tall and broad.

I remember your thread a while back saying you were going on a date - good to know it worked out, then!

oh yes, it worked very very well

I've known him for years and years

neil knew him too

Oh, that sounds lovely. Congratulations.