how often do nurseries change nappies??

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I am thinking of sending my ds to a nursery, haven't visited them yet but I am thinking about what questions I need to ask. I have heard that some have set times for changing babies. If there are 3 babies to a staff member what happens to other babies at this time?

Also I have typically changed my ds's nappy everytime it is wet at all if I have noticed it so not sure how he will cope if he is only changed at set times. Would I be able to ask he is changed more often if there are only set changing times?

Also, just remembered that when I first took her I had to fill out a sheet about routines, favourite toys and games, who lived at home including pets etc (so they had some chance of deciphering what she was telling them!), what was likely to upset her, what was likely to help calm her down if upset, etc etc etc.

And in terms of provision, I take in a nappy bag with wipes, enough nappies for the day, a drinking cup with lid, any nappy creams and spare clothes. In the summer, it includes sun cream and a hat as well. They have spares of everything should I forget something. They provide all snacks and they also do a 'proper' lunch - ie a hot meal. The sippy cups are left in the same place all day and the children can help themselves if they are thirsty at any time. They are then given a proper cup (if old enough) with their meal. So my dd has water there for her all day which she can help herself to, and then with her meal she may get more water, or milk, to drink. They encourage indepenent eating but feed anyone who can't do that. When my dd was still struggling with a spoon, they gave her one but sat near her with a second to ensure she got enough to eat.

WRT sleep, when I first took her to nursery, she only went in the mornings as she slept in the afternoon and she was (and is) a horror to get to sleep in the daytime. When I had to leave her all day for the first time I told them not to worry too much as I didn't think they'd have time to sit and rock her to sleep which is what I do - I kind of figured that if I had a grotty child to deal with because she was tired that was my look out as they would have better things to do than spend ages soothing my uncooperative infant! I could not have been more wrong - they took her off to a quiet room and got her off to sleep to make sure she wasn't overtired at home time.

Find the right nursery and your child should be fine!

Not sufficiently often enough at all IMO. DD seems to have been left in her own poo for some considerable time on occasion, judging by the horrific rash she's been sent home with. we complained. we're now taking her out of daycare.

TEN nappies a DAY?! Geeeee-ay-sus!

Our nursery changes 3 hourly or when needed (soiled etc) and we have never had nappy rash with DD.

They fully support BLW too (they actually prefer this method as spoonfeeding takes up a pair of hands!)

The only way to feel comfortable with a childcare setting is to visit, we saw a few before deciding for DD, her place is amazing and she loves it there (Montessori) and you will find that nurseries can often offer experiences we can't at home so our DC get the best of both worlds.

Rita - they said BLW wasn't a problem, she talked to them about the baby needing time to eat (30-40 mins is fine), they said that was not a problem - she's lucky to get 15/20. It's not good enough. So yes it is lack of care.

MouseyMouse - along with the fact that she's not getting her first sleep until 11.30/12 then not getting her second sleep at all, it's really not working out too good. She's talked to them a couple of times but they just back peddal and talk shite - she's a first time Mum, a little unsure of herself and if she's asking too much of them etc - she's now looking at getting a nanny, but she really can't afford it. I'm having coffee with her on Tuesday, so will see how she is then :(

Mishy - I agree with you, it's a case of finding the right one and BLW can be a bit difficult, but their 'feeding' area is in the main room and her DD is happy to sit there eating by herself until she's done, so there shouldn't be an issue really - but the thing for me is that they keep saying it's fine and not a problem, then writing down or telling her things that make it clear they aren't letting the baby feed herself! As I say, it wouldn't worry me because I'd be happy for a mixed feeding situation etc, but the point it that's not how my friend feels and after having specifically talked to them about BLW and what her DD needed before choosing them she just feels lied to :( which makes the 'trust' aspect quite difficult. Not to mention that now when they get to the nursery her DD starts getting clingy & crying :(

Babybythesea - your nursery sounds lovely :)

I think the OP either needs some professional help or he/she (I'll presume she) is winding us all up. She hasn't been back to respond to any questions she has been asked.

chipping I think I would "threaten" the nursery manager with an ofsted complaint if things don't change immediately.