to feel sad that no one has ever loved me enough to marry me?

[Caan]

normally I couldn't care less, but I've just watched a wedding on the telly and I feel a bit wistful.

That's a big question really.

Have you had many long term relationships?

Judging by the posts in Relationships, try to think of it as a lucky escape instead

Would it be crass to ask how old you are?

You could look at it the other way, i.e. you were not stupid enough to marry the wrong man.

It is not over yet, there is still time, to marry the right man for the right reasons, you never know whats around the corner.

Someone probably has, it's just that you didn't love them back.

And remember that behind every beautiful wedding, there are countless complaints about the guest list, seating arrangements, menu choices, gift list options, supplier hassles, the list is endless!

I'm 41, 4 children all with the same dad and even he didn't want to marry me. I've had 3 serious relationships I suppose, was relatively young for the first two though.

oh pet it's not about loving you. there are people who just don't want to get married and it has nothing to do with how much they love someone. Don't think it's you.

I know what you mean. I've managed to get to 37 with two not very long term relationships (18mo and 4yrs) and that's it. I think I repel men .

Better than marrying the wrong one and making an utter balls up of it though.

Pah! 41, in the prime of life then

Having 4 children with him sounds like he was seriously into you (and I don't mean it in that way ) so you're hardly unlovable.

Some of the nicest women I know are inexplicably single, while some of the nastiest, laziest and most unattractive are with lovely men. I don't get it sometimes. Perhaps a degree of cunning is required if you are not naturally lucky early on or something!

he didn't love me either, I think he hated me eventually, I left him in the end and have been single ever since.

marriages can go the same way. look how many divorces there are.

I just don't want you to feel like there is something fundimentally unloveable about you. Everyone deserves and is worthy of love.

That's very true Nijinsky, I know of people the same. Some horrible horrible people seem to end up with lovely partners, while some gorgeous lovely people I know are eternally single. I have no idea what that's about!

I think i'm just feeling lonely tonight, haven't spoken to anyone all day.

Come here Caan. Let's eat choccie digestives together. I have been with DP for over 10 yrs. Have a couple of kids. Not married. He did ask me in a romantic manner to live with him. I mistook that for possible marriage proposal. But with hindsight I think he meant 'pair up my socks, cook yummy food, host entertaining evenings for my friends and business clients oh and have my kids.'

I amuse myself by reading the Bridezilla threads. I'll never wed now. Not after reading those. Shudders.

can we have wine with those biscuits?

Ooh yes. Just pouring.

I've just about finished a bottle already

do you know what, marriage SHOULD be about loving someone, but often it isn't. often people propose just because their OH wants them to or they feel they should (i know a few cases of this myself) in fact i married my ex because we had been together so long i felt we "ought to" and guess what, it ended inside a year :o and for what its worth i then met and married new DH and we are really happy.

so don't assume that no one has loved you "enough" it isn't always as black and white as that. i hope you feel a bit more positive today (and not too hungover haha)