to think under 2 is too young to be left unsupervised?

[sungirltan]

We (dh, dd (19 months) and I have been to a health club today where dd has her waterbabies lessons. the club has a huge restaurant with a small soft play room next to it. the soft play room has windows but they are waist height and above so you can only see into the room from the restaurant if you sit at the one table which is ajacent.

i often take dd in there for a bounce around in the ball pool but i have never left her unsupervised. i often go with other parents and we take turns to sit in there on the floor and watch as the room is not staffed.

dh took dd in today so i could finish my coffee (crucial part of the story i know!). he watched dd for a while who was in the ball pool with 2/3 other children including a little girl about dd's age, maybe a month or two older but theres no way she was more than 2 and very small. to get into the balls the kids have to go up and down a padded doubled sided staircase and the little ones cannot get in and out unaided. this little girl began to howl as she oculdnt get out. dh was concerened and popped his hesd out into the restaurant and shouted something like 'theres a little girl in here crying, does she belong to anyone?' (v loudly i hasnt to add and i heard him from quite far away) no one moved!

aibu to think leaving a child under 2 when you are not even in either sight or earshot is irresponsible?

yanbu

It is irresponsible.

Oh how sad. No, YANBU. And not to scaremonger, but your DH could've been anyone, and if you can't properly see into that room, someone has left their DC in a room unattended that strangers can wander into and out of. How long would it have taken for that mum or dad to realise if their LO had either toddled out or been taken out?

Entirely irresponsible.

YANBU. I've quite laid back with DD (21mo) and I wouldn't leave her unattended if I wasn't sat right next to the windows.

YANBU.

What happened when your DH wanted to take your DD out of the room?

Did nobody collect the little girl?

I was just thinking the same as Agent Zigzag . What happened to her? Yanbu at all.

a while later on dad came back through the doors which separate the restaurant from a v long corridor down which is the rest of the club (what i mean is he would have been more that 500 years away behind at least 3 sets of doors whatever he was doing in the club), took the little girl out for a bit, wandered around then put her back in. he and the mum then sat at a table at the far end of the restaurant to have coffee or whatever, a long way from and again not in sight of the child :(

in the end we took dd out as more older children had come nito the soft play who are naturally much more boisterous and its a small room (i dont begrudge but accpet that the soft play isnt always appropriate when dd is still v little)

Some parents aren't fussed leaving their DC where they can see other adults are with their own DC.

Just presume the adults won't mind the extra responsibility without being asked.

We had it once with a little girl in a park and said something to the mum when she came back - she didn't take it very well

agentzigzag - the child had been unsupervised by any adult until dh took dd in there