To ban this girl from calling for DS?

[Lorenz]

We are having a (Justin Beiber look-alike) foreign exchange student over for the week and after seeing his photos, the girls at DS's school are OBSESSED with him and are all under the impression that they will "pull" him whilst he's here. He's 14 and these girls are 12 (and ds) are 12.
Anyway one girl inparticular has decided she will "call for" DS and this boy monday morning. She's never bothered to call for DS before. She's just using him to get to the foreign exchange lad. I know it all sounds a bit silly and petty but AIBU to stop this from happening? I know for a fact that once the lad goes home DS will be left to walk to school alone again as these girls will no longer see the need to bother with him.

YABU. Let your son enjoy a week basking in the reflected glory of the Bieber lookalike.

I agree with WhoAteMySnickers - they might be shallow but your ds might enjoy it. Have you asked him what he thinks about it?

lol at 12 you wont have control for much longer over him anyway,in fact,i doubt you do now!!!

Are you 12 as well? Let them get on with it.

yes, totally unreasonable.

why not use this opportunity to talk with DS about the shallow-ness of the behaviour?

let it play out, see what happens... i doubt that the exchange student will be as exciting as he appears, or interested in the 12yo girls, and it will be interesting for DS to observe.

Ask your son what he wants and if he minds. You might find these silly bints appreciate your son's wit/charm/SOH/assets after a week but probably not as
they are shallow. Either way your son also gets the flirty gerties for a week and the exchange student will think your son is popular. Win-win for a spotty, hormonal teenager - imagery for the wank bank if nowt else...

He is 14 not 4 surely he can make his own decisions on who to hang out with?

forever.....mum doesnt seem to think so!!!

they are at secondary school!!!! (or middle school)

Omg just let them get on with it. That is so funny they think they can pull him. Your ds won't be scarred for life and knows the deal.

If you ban the girl, your DS is likely to be laughed at by the girls and their mates. They will tell others what a control-freak you are.
Is he your eldest, and this your first taste of Secondary?

In fact I do feel sorry for the exchange student, what were the organisers thinking of? 14 and stuck with the Y7 babies.

It's a useful lesson for your son, hopefully he'll learn how shallow some people are.

let them come, let them come. he is 12 not 14 (the foreign boy is 14)

you also get to check them out, one of them may be going out with your ds one day...

At 14 you are a bit stuck .

I would be a bit passive agressive and say something like :

"Oh ,its I wonder what she wants ....? she normally doesn't call for you does she ?"

See how he reacts ...he probably is quite wise to it ,or will be soon anyway

How can you ban her?

Surely she'll just wait at the end of the road?

Oh,your son is 12 -sorry ,I would still say the same thing .

My DS is 12 too ,I would feel happy giving him a little hint about the girl .

YABU!

Butt out woman!

For goodness sake do not do or say anything! Let them get on with it.

Let them get on with it, don't be embarrassing to your son.

Perfectly understandable to want to protect your DS from being used. YABU to step in though. He may make friends with these girls in the long run or he will learn a lesson in life. Either way you should let him get on with it. You can always chat to him about how he feels about the girls sudden interest in calling for him.

I don't know that it merits a discussion on the shallowness of behaviour. Surely it's just part of that whole growing up thing. Cringeworthy but largely a rite of passage?
But yes yabu, just let them get on with it.

This reminds me of the episode of The Inbetweeners where all the girls (and the boys' mums) wanted to pull the hot French exchange student. Rather than using it as an ideal opportunity to enjoy more female attention than usual, the boys spent their time trying to get away from him. Ha ha ha ha haaaaaa!

Sorry, that doesn't answer your question though, does it? If your DS is pissed off about it, I'd help him out but if he doesn't mind, just let them get on with it.

Zombie!