AIBU?
This is a strange reward system in school
OneDove · 20/05/2011 23:11
Ok so at my DD state primary they have introduced a 'Tea Party' with the Head. Certain children are selected to have Tea with the Head in recognition of 'trying really hard'. They are given cake, sweets, juice etc.
I just think this is a weird way to reward the children? Potentially the quieter children may not be ' invited' as they dont speak up as much as the more confident kids? My daughter thought it was a birthday party and she wasn't invited. She was a upset about it. Do I say something to the Head?
Just canvassing opinion really.
worraliberty · 20/05/2011 23:15
OMG I wonder if it's the same school as my son's lol!
I think it's a great idea. It's not just for trying really hard..it's for all sorts of things like encouraging other children, politeness etc. They have to collect a certain amount of points in my son's school to win a place at the teaparty.
ShellyBoobs · 20/05/2011 23:26
My DD's school does something similar, although theirs is a lunch with the Head before the Christmas holiday.
DD was invited last time and as far as I'm aware in her case it was reward for being particularly kind to others. If it was the case that the quieter ones didn't get invited then DD definitely wouldn't have been there; I don't think there's a quieter girl in her school (which isn't a good thing in many ways, I know).
So, in my opinion YABU for thinking it's a bad thing. But that's based upon my (well, DD's) experience, and assumptions about what your DD's school is trying to do.
NulliusInVerba · 20/05/2011 23:42
Oh bless :( thats sad she thought she wasnt invited to a birthday party.
Just explain to her thats not what it is, the other children are not leaving her out etc.
Doubt the school would change it tbh. It seems a bit odd to me, yes, but if it works they will use it. Hopefully all the children get a chance.
OneDove · 20/05/2011 23:52
I think a better explanation to the children. My DD clearly misunderstood and thought she was left out. It seems a bit arbitrary in the definition of who deserves to attend. A points system would make sense more. My DD tries hard, but isn't one to shout out in class.
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