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Make Up on 5 YO at school disco

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 21:54

I will admit I am an older mum. Our Rec, Yr1 and Yr2 kids had a disco tonight. Typical for their age, the lads were playing light sabers with the glow sticks while the girls danced.

One 5 year old girl was escorted in by her Mum with full make up including foundation and mascara.

In my mind I think kids should be left to be kids, plenty of time for make up later!
AIBU?

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TheOriginalFAB · 20/05/2011 21:56

YANBU.

My dd had her face painted as a butterfly and she looked gorgeous until she had red lipstick put on her. Some how it changed the whole look.

HumperdinkFangboner · 20/05/2011 21:58

foundation on a 5 yo's beautifully soft skin?! Horrid!

A few of the reception girls in our school wear a bit of glittery face stuff, for the discos which doesn't seem that bad IMO.

HumperdinkFangboner · 20/05/2011 21:58

some of the boys do too come to think of it!

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 21:58

I don't mind dressing up, but to be made up as an adult for a disco is just wrong!

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Pictish · 20/05/2011 22:00

I think that's pretty yuck...but it's not my kid so it's not my call.

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 22:02

Nope, but it's causing other people to comment on the kid (heard a few things said about it)

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Goofymum · 20/05/2011 22:05

I don't understand it either. Why would you want to put foundation on a 5 year old's perfect skin ? Sparkly nail varnish and lip gloss aside, surely putting makeup such as foundation and mascara on a child is saying "my child needs cosmetics to make herself look nicer".

Pictish · 20/05/2011 22:05

Well people shouldn't be so petty as to bitch about a 5 year old should they?
I'm sure she looked a proper dog's dinner, but personally I would roll my eyes at the silliness of the parents then never think of it again.
Not my kid, not my concern.

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 22:07

Not my concern no, and it wasn't so much bitching as observation and wondering WHY a Mum would feel the need to do this.

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Tidey · 20/05/2011 22:07

Fully made up 5yo not something I would allow but each to their own I suppose. 3yo dd currently has pink toenails and I guess lots of people would object to that. What were people saying about the child?

AgentZigzag · 20/05/2011 22:07

I thought you were going to ask IYWBU to let your 5 YO go to a disco with make up on, and would have answered that a bit of lip gloss or eyeshadow would be not too bad.

But full make up is taking it a bit too seriously, and I doubt a 5 YO would ask for the works (they wouldn't know what the works would be) and even if they did you'd just say 'No way!' to them.

DoMeDon · 20/05/2011 22:09

WTF? People commented on the kid? They sound lovely.

YANBU to think make-up is inappropraite for a party at 5yo though. Parents need to think about the message the child is getting - she is too young/pretty for make up, bless her.

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 22:10

They were just asking each other why a 5 yo would have so much slap on...it's not as if she needs to enhance her looks to bag a bloke at 5!

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AgentZigzag · 20/05/2011 22:16

If you've made choices you've had to set in stone when being asked by your DCs pictish, like

'Can I have heeled school shoes Mum?'

'Ummm, let me think about that DD1...no'

It's hard not to notice one of her classmates who has inch high heels and can't run about in the playground like everyone else.

Of course it's up to their parents, but it doesn't stop you gawping in your head about it.

I agree though the other mums discussing it isn't nice.

frantic51 · 20/05/2011 22:20

I couldn't get passed a disco for 5 year olds?! Confused Let alone make-up of any kind on one of them! Shock

Jaspants · 20/05/2011 22:21

I thought you were going to say sparkly cheek stuff and lipgloss and was going to say YANBU as it seems to be the thing for all 5yo girls to wear to a party along with a disney princess dress and those hideous lelli kellys.

However foundation? wtf

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 22:24

Disco was organised as a fundraiser for friends of school..was more silly party games and daft music...

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 22:26

It wasn't discussed per se, was more passing comments between friends, and it wasn't directed at the child, but at her Mum for allowing it!

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zippylou · 20/05/2011 22:33

My daughter is 6 and loves girly things such as make up and nail varnish. I draw the line at heavy black mascara and foundation but the rest if put on in moderation is fine as far as im concerned.I would have no problem with a child goin to a school disco with make-up on. Little girls watch their mummys getting ready to go out to a 'party/disco' and they are simply reflecting what they see their mum doing but hey everyone has their own opinion :-)

duchesse · 20/05/2011 22:39

Utterly wrong for children especially of that age to be wearing make-up imo. Some mothers seem to project themselves onto their daughters at these things I'm afraid (live through their daughters?). I remember being utterly horrified to see 6 yos turning up to my children's school discos looking like jail bait in sequinned boob tubes and high heels. If anybody wonders why a boob tube is wrong on a 6 yo, the clue's in the name. My daughters went in nice normal civvies.

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GingerWrath · 20/05/2011 22:41

It's all down to the making kids grow up too fast argument..mine went bare faced with a small spritz of glitter spay!

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fairydoll · 20/05/2011 22:48

I ber she looked a right dog's dinner, but at the end of teh day it's just a bit of fun mother/child bonding thing .If the child likes it and they have fun doing it...where's the harm?
On an instinctive level I think it's gross .But thinking about it logically You can't have it both ways telling your child to be their own person and not care what others think, and then turn round and say they can't have make up because of how they might be perceived.

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