to not be happy with a nursery worker suggesting that a 3 year old should have her nails painted

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i would never paint my 3 year old dds nails. it is something i choose not to do. when i dropped dd1 off at nursery on thursday they were all excited as they were having there photos taken that day. i was early so i waited in the room with my dd2 and i overheard one of the nursery workers talking to my dd and her friend. they were admiring her nail varnish and she said to my dds friend that she thought she was going to ask her mummy to paint her nails. i was a little shocked at this. why sould she suggest this.

Because all little children love having their nails painted. because it is pretty. My DS always wants his done if he sees someone else getting it done. I dont wear nail varnish normally so it isnt something that my children see as normal, but they all love it.

She didn't suggest it from what you've said?

It would be inappropriate for a nursery worker to suggest it IMO but this one didn;t - non-issue.

I agree that from what you wrote, the nursey worker didn't suggest it. It sounds like she is repeating something your dd said.

I wouldn't have a problem with a 3yo having their nails painted anyway. I really don't see the harm. It's no different to dressing up in a police/nurse/doctor/builder/fireman outfit, or being provided with a play kitchen/workstation/shop.

Nail varnish on little girls...well, they love it don't they? It's harmless, it's fun and the nursery worker didn't suggest it, she was simply making cheery small talk with with them.

Non issue. Next!

Most kids, boys and girls simply love to have their nails painted. When mine can't get hold of my varnish they use felt tips. I no longer paint my nails because they are all manky and gnawed to with an inch of their lives so the dc's don't see it at this house.
Lighten up, it's fun and does absolutely no harm

My DS really likes having his nails painted :)

i will clarify what she said.

dd friend - i like your nails today. i like them pink.
Nursery worker - thanks. i thought you was going to ask your mummy to paint yours.
i sounded like they had talked about it before and the nursery worker had suggested that she asked her mummy to paint hers.

No - it sounds like the little girl said SHE was going to ask her mummy to paint hers.

i do see nail varnish as makeup and i wouldnt let her wear that either. i think there is a difference in getting hold of mums make up bag and going out with it on

Whatever - each to their own. Don't worry about it.

i see your point that i could have mis read the conversation.

You're presuming the nursery worker suggested it, but perhaps the girl said she was going to ask her mum?

Sorry, I read your OP as the staff were admiring your dd's friends nail varnish, but now I have read properly, that wouldn't make sense!

However, I still don't think the nursery worker said anything wrong, and I work in a nursery and generally have very strong feelings against small children, especially girls, bieng over praised for appearances. I think it does damage when young children are indirectly taught that there is value on the way a person looks.

You may disagree with nail varnish on small children, and that's fine, but you need to realise that many perfectly reasonable people that are excellent with children and trained to be aware of personal, social and emotional development of preschoolers, may well disagree with you.

In the nicest possible way OP this is the third thread in active about this, this evening!

What the jeff is going on at all after school clubs this week? Have they all suddenly been sponsored by Revlon or something?