to think EX should look after the kids the one week night he has them - and want to know who is?

[slightlyunbalanced]

EX OH is a twat and has caused many many probs and lives with a women who thinks she is the parenting guru of the UK (even though she put her eldest in care when she was 13 and has regually changed her story as to why and thinks its none of my business to know even though my kids are staying in her house).

Kids hate her. Anyway I digress - kids tell me that the one weeknight he has them "to spend quality time with them" they actually both go out leaving the kids with a babysitter (I should be grateful the tight fuck careful idiot forks out for this).

AIBU to think this is bloody awful (for the kids) and to want to know if he isn't looking after our kids - then who the hell is?!

YANBU - also are you able to find out why a child went in to care in the UK? because i'd wAnt to know

Not acceptable - you should know who's looking after your kids. Fair enough if it was a one off night out but if it's a regular thing and your kids don't like going are they old enough to choose for themselves?

YANBU

Your ex is very similar to mine, a selfish twat!
He has other nights he could go out but he chooses the one night he is supposed to be with his kids, I honestly give up trying to figure out why men like this don't give a shit about how their behaviour affects their kids

Yea they are but they are very loyal to their dad - its her they hate.

You can find out if the home is safe but not why they went into care. I did try to investigate (through the correct channels) but it all got very nasty and my job was threatened (she wrote to my boss etc etc).

I am not keen to rake it all up again tbh. I'm the pyschotic ex not at all that he is in an extremely abusive realtionship .

YANBU.

I wanted to say more, but I'll hold it in.

YANBU.

Be my guest GooGoo