Love my husband to bits and we are very lucky that he has a well paid job that earns him good money. I left my stressfull NHS job after we had the kids and now just do a few hours a week admin for some pocket money and to keep my hand in. But I do EVERYFU*CKINGTHING else. Look after the kids, take them to school and nursery, cook, clean, wash up, empty dishwasher, do the gardening, do the laundry, sort out all household issues/holidays/repairs etc etc. If the kids want anything (food, drink, attention, conflict resolution, cuddles) they come to me, if they are kicking off it's at me. If there are skids in the pan coz they can't ever flush the loo it's me that thinks to bung the bleach down there. If there are clothes/toys piled up on the stairs it's me that bothers to take them back upstairs. Blah blah blah. I could go on. Sometimes I crack and have a meltdown hissyfit at everyone but let it go once it's off my chest. At the end of the day my husband then assumes that him groping my arse and telling me he's got a boner is going to make me dig out the lacey lingery for a steamy sesh!!!!!! NOOOOOOOO!!!!!! He seems to get all offended if I try to hint at my frustrations. Or, most annoyingly pulls out the money card (we couldn't have bought this house if it wasn't for etc. forgetting the £121K I put into it!!!!!!). And breath......... But I do love him and he is a good man at heart.