to think i should not have to deal with other peoples transport

[AuntiePickleBottom]

i have had a few relatives ask how are they going to get to my wedding, in a way they hinting that i pay for there transport.

i have said calmly, there are buses or taxis, and some have said they can't afford a taxi, so what are they going to do.

the wedding have been booked now for over 4 months, surley thats long enough for people to find transport

oh blimey, do they all live close, can't they club together for a mini bus?

well they live aout a 15 minutes car journey. but i have got to the point that i really couldn't give a damm, they have had months to get transport.....which will be between £6-£7 to get there

They are going to sort themselves out. Presumably they are adults. They could try asking other guests for lifts for a start.

YANBU, you have enough to organize without having to deal with transport for guests!
This is their responsibility, not yours

Send them an email with a couple of local taxi numbers and the details of the nearest station. It's not your problem how people get to your wedding.

i really feel like busting into tears at the moment, so i have unpluged the phone tonight because i just can't deal with any more wedding things.

YANBU, don't get involved.

I had this with a family funeral I arranged at the end of last year.

Gave out details of the crematorium to friends and neighbours - family were accounted for - but most seemed to think it was my duty to get them to the service. Leave their cars at home and hop in a limo, which I paid for. In the end it was making me ill with worry about leaving someone behind. The crematorium chapel was little more than 3 miles away and on a public bus route.

I did have to say enough was enough and tell neighbours they were more than welcome to attend, indeed come and have a cup of tea and sandwich with us afterwards, but I really can't organise transport. I was utterly amazed at people's cheek in asking though

YANBU. It's not like you are expecting them to travel hundreds of miles.

15 minutes car journey?! Bloody hell, I thought you were going to admit you'd booked a wedding somewhere inaccessible to public transport/requiring four-wheel-drive to access it.

Given this is not the case they are just being lazy. If it were me I'd be tempted to say 'yes, I'll send you all the details - here's a map. See you there.' They don't need any more.

Btw, congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Please don't let other people wind you up, they are being really rude and probably don't realize that it's actually stressful to plan a wedding, especially if it involves sorting out transport for adults who've suddenly forgotten how to live adult lives!

I hope you have a lovely day.

My db and sil are getting married in a few months. Hope you are not her!

We live in a large city. Ceremony is booked in a nearby town about 15 miles away, not easily accessible by public transport. reception is in another completely different venue about 10 miles the other direction (away from the city we, and they, live in)

Sil-to-be's family are awkward at the best of times, so it is causing problems. everyone will have to either drive or pay out a lot of money on taxis. Her family seem to be expecting to be tranported; lots of talk of the bride and groom hiring buses etc.

That's ridiculous! Tell them to be grateful you aren't getting married in the Caribbean...

One of those big taxis split several ways won't be too bad.

I was the silly bride (with a silly DF) who provided buses from 3 towns to our church (in one of the towns) and then onto the reception. I also provided buses to collect and bring evening guests and return them all home again!

One guest who hinted forever in the run up to our wedding that this was the done thing got married the following year..... not a bus in sight.

Don't let them bully you, they are grown ups and I bet they can afford a beer at the reception!