Why can't my daughter calm herself down, all my boys can

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She is 7 not 2

she has been taught the same calming techniques

and yet she seems to work herself up on purpose and it takes much much longer for her to calm

arrghhh

frucking painful drama figging queen

Please can you tell me about the "calming techniques"?

No idea about the answer - I have 2 DSs and they are both not very calm at times

kids aren't robots - maybe her needs are different?
also do you use that kind of language with her?!!!!

I suspect the OP is venting

My DS is less calm than either DD, and he's older than DD2.

So are we thinking it's not necessarily a gender-related thing?

I'm not sure whether or not the OP meant it to be gender related... I was really just explaining the way things are chez moi.

Everybody is different. You can't think that because some people can do something one way, that everyone can. She's her own person, she's not your boys. She's obviously got a different personality, one that isn't getting along with these techniques.

Have a rethink, try to find something that will suit her personality.

• these calming techniques, are they the breathing thingie with the hand movements the name of which totally escapes me? Cos they used to work with my eldest but were a pile of crap for my youngest.

Nah Daisy - that was my interpretation. I'm quite sensitive to gender-realted assumptions, and terms like drama queen and bitchy which get used to describe girls' behaviour. My two boys are as unalike as any boy and girl might be.

Sorry if I've over-interpreted OP. I would like to hear about the techniques you find useful

My DS can be a bit of a drama king, I suppose.

He's charming all the same.

ofgs

stop looking for things to take offence at

my 8yo is a HUGE drama queen

he is currently sobbing piteously because he has lost his homework sheet, after countless warnings to put it somewhere safe

we have numerous calming techniques, with varying degrees of success - most of them work better on me than they do on him though

yes venting

will come back with techniques but can't do them now

because of said frucking annoying drama queen

skyblue - take the stick out of your ass dear it's not becoming - this is an adult forum and I think people can take a few made up words that sound like but aren't swearing

DS1 is a drama king too ....

I have a daughter exactly like that op, sweet jebus the tanties, and at her age too . I find tiredness (hers) to be a big factor. She has a very strong personality and if things don't go quite the way she planned, you get the earplugs in pronto. My tactic is completely ignore her until she calms down, even if that means walking round with her clinging to leg, her trying to bite me etc. And then I'd withhold something I know she really wants, usually a trip to someone's house... I know exactly how you feel, it makes for a very.. shall we say.. intense parenting experience!

On the plus side, I love her feistiness, sense of humour, lovely friendly nature and the fun I have with her outweighs the negatives :)
Mightn't be saying that when she's a teenager tho :(

Would love to hear some calming techniques.

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Would also love some calming techniques.

Dtd1 (10) really struggles to calm herself down.

i'd love to hear calming techniques (um...for me when dd is refusing to sleep AGAIN )

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^^

this is my personal favourite (would you be offended if I said I have used that one, on occasion, in my secondary school lessons too )

Absolutely not Migrating. I hope you also call them nasty names too