Short version
My Dad left Manchester area 32 years ago, he worked in RAF, and whilst in Wales he met my mum.
Whilst my dad was down here, his mother died suddenly of cancer, and his siblingS [1 brother and 1 sister] were taken into care. brother into a foster home, sister into a childrens home
Dad lost contact with them, until 7years ago, when youngest brother, decided to just jump in car and find us [he knew our old address]
Fantastic news he lived closely with sister, so all we reunited
Having got to know them both, my aunt [the sister]had just had an breast removed and chemo for cancer, first time we met her she was bald 
Over the next few years, we had regular visits from her, and the brother and his family moved to Wales to be close to us. Aunty visited regularly
We all spoke about the past things we had missed etc, after time, when she trusted us, she told us she was sexually abused in the home for years.
She had got pregnant, and had 2 children, so married the dad [who is not a very nice man] she is still married to him now.
Her DD got pregnant a few years back, after a traumatic birth, she refused to feed/change/hold the baby at the hospital. SS were called, and the baby was given to my aunt
Fast forward 2 years [2years ago]. Aunt had started to limp on a visit down here. She went to the doctors, and after tests, found out the cancer had come back, and was in her bones [hip] The doctors could only prolong her life, as they could not cure it.
She was given 2-3years with chemo, 18 months without.
Having been through chemo before, she refused it, and until august this year, seemed to be doing well. Until a visit down here,she was extremely unwell, she had to cut her visit short, and go back to see what was going on, if it had spread etc
It had, to her liver and her lungs [spots on both], she wanted to see her grandson attend school etc, In October she went on a tablet form chemo to give her the time to do this.
She was quite poorly on the chemo, but over the last 2-3 months, it had been making her much worse [she was in bed by 2pm for the evening]
So 3 weeks ago, she told us all, she had not taken her chemo for 5 weeks, and was not going back on it. In fairness, since stopping the chemo, she was very active, in fact better than I had seen her in months.
Night before last she phoned us, had scan results, news not good. The few spots on her liver, have become massive and vitually covering her liver, and lung is much worse
Doctor given her max 6 months without chemo, max 12 months with
We have all known about this from day one, but the fact now the doctors are talking months, instead of years,
Knowing what a terrible life she has had is destroying me, and the rest of my family
Nothing anyone can say I know