I made DH get up in the night AIBU?

[handsoffmycake]

I made DH get up last night to put DS who is 3 back into bed. He had fallen out and was really crying.

I was feeding DD who is 1, in our bed (as I had been up and down all night and finally relented and bought her into our bed) I didnt want to disturb her by getting up and putting DS back in bed myself.

It is rare I ever wake DH up in the night. I have always done the nightwakings as I breastfeed and I appreciate DH gets up early 4 mornings a week.

DH was not happy as he had to be up for work at 5am. He works 24 hours a week. Shifts of 6am-12pm.

I am SAHM.

AIBU to wake him up every now and then if I need him?

He can always have a nap in the afternoon when he gets back from his 6 hour working day if he's exhausted. Bless.

Right off to start the day will check back later and be spurred on by further support.

Well, I'm pretty sure that it was my husband who volunteered to take half the wakeups as soon as they weren't breastfeeding-related, so it's not like yours couldn't volunteer. But then I was supporting the household (he's a PhD student, I outearn him), which probably tipped the balance. Still, though, it's not really your job to teach your husband to play fair, is it?

Either way. Never too late. No idea how you protected him during the newborn + young toddler stage, but there's no reason you can't start demanding more now.

He looks after the toddler at night and you look after the baby simple even my DH who loves his sleep did this.

24 hours a week - you realise that loads of DH's on here work twice that every week. Whats he doing after he comes home at midday - doesn't he help you at all or does he sit in front of the telly all day?

He finds it hard to cope with little sleep and very difficult to function when woken in the night

I think he needs to realise that this statement is true of every single human being on the planet, not just His Royal Highness Mr Handsoffmycake!

I have been awake in the night with an 8yo having a nightmare who came into my bed to wriggle around and periodically kick me sleep. I will feel tired today. Hold. The.Fucking. Front. Page! I will get on with my 9 hour working day, plus housework, school runs and shopping like every other woman on the planet. Tell him to get a grip. Wimp!

Honestly, some men are such babies

I remember having the "I'm more tired than you" argument with ex when DD1 was born. We stood next to her cot at 4am and started having the row until we both realised how ridiculous it was and started to laugh!

It is the world's most pointless argument, it really is isn't it?

He works 6 hours aday !!! Think he needs to get a grip!!!

My DH is up at 6am everyday and not home till 6pm and he still takes his turn. We each have one lay in at the weekend.

Your husband has got it easy

YANBU.

We have an 11 week old DD who was up at 3am. I'm struggling with horrible constipation ATM and needed the toilet and thought it may take a while!! DH, who works horrible shifts in A&e fed her, changed her and got her bk to sleep. He got bk to bed at 4 and was up at 6, he won't be home till 7 and hrs working the nxt 10 days. Not even a wimper from him. We're a team and he enjoys helping me out and giving me a break when he can.

Hope your DH mans up a bit - poor you.

YANBU. Being on Mumsnet never fails to make me grateful for the dh I have!

I would not have needed to ask.

Dh is out of the house for the best part of 12 hours a day, and works late into the night most nights. He also deals with more than his share of night wakings.