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to want to be told my hair looks nice.

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glasgowgirl2 · 17/05/2011 13:31

Had Hair done recently. Cut and colour. I am really pleased with it. Not one person has told me how nice it looks. Not even dh or dc. Only comment I got was from ds2 (5) who told me "it looks funny"

Feeling a little invisible.

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whomovedmychocolate · 17/05/2011 13:32

Yeah they are thickos men and children.

I bet you look lovely :)

theglove · 17/05/2011 13:35

I hate that!
People are a bit thoughtless, or maybe presume you've already had 100 compliments, or don't want to sycophantic.

I bet it looks lovely

BluddyMoFo · 17/05/2011 13:37

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theglove · 17/05/2011 13:37

Wow, x post with whomovedmychocolate!

walesblackbird · 17/05/2011 13:38

I had mine cut and coloured a few weeks ago. DS2 (7) still hasn't noticed that mummy now has red hair, DS1 (9) said "yeuch" which is an improvement on being told that I looked like a mushroom (had had it bobbed). DD (5) noticed immediately and rushed over to tell me that I looked lovely.

Rather embarrased me though by insisting on taking me to show her teacher - she is a sweetie though and starting to become quite girlie now.

I'm sure you hair looks lovely!

MamaLazarou · 17/05/2011 13:39

Your hair looks nice, glasgowgirl.

EssexGurl · 17/05/2011 13:42

My DH looks after the kids when I go - always on a Saturday. He never says anything when I get back. I usually have to ask what he thinks. It is never positive - usually, "its a bit short". Umm I've had it cut! Or "it looks the same". DS (5) is much more switched on and always says it looks nice. But I think he knows that he should say that rather than he means it. At least he says something!

I usually do comment when other friends have their hair done. I hate it when no one says anything to me - I always think it must mean it is horrid so make sure I don't make others think that. Still, no one ever says it to me!! Maybe I do look awful ....

kreecherlivesupstairs · 17/05/2011 13:56

DH never notices when I've had mine done. Nor does DD. I could sulk, but life's too short.
I always laugh when someone has had a really dramatic hair change and someone ask 'ooh, have you had your hair cut?'

MoreBeta · 17/05/2011 14:01

glasgowgirl - I suspect your DH like myself many men has learned to avoid making comments about hair or clothing. Its a no win, high risk, low reward situation.

For example, does this fictional dialogue sound vaguely familiar to anyone?

DH: Hello, your hair looks nice

DW: Really, you don't think it looks too short?

DH: No, I like it short

DW: You used to like it long when we first met

DH: Well I think short suits you now you are older, more chic and sophisticated

DW: Well I was thinking of growing it long again but if you think it makes me look old I WON'T!

DH: But I think it LOOKS NICE AS IT IS!

mrsravelstein · 17/05/2011 14:03

dh never notices mine either, even when it changes colour dramatically

AmazingBouncingFerret · 17/05/2011 14:05

DH always says somethign about mine but my dad is the best, if either my mum or I have been the hairdressers you can guarantee when we see my dad the first thing he'll say is "oh was the hairdressers not open then?"

Git.

bronze · 17/05/2011 14:09

Morebeta

easy answer

DH: Hello, your hair looks nice

DW: Really, you don't think it looks too short?

DH: No, I like it

you may then still get

DW: You used to like it long when we first met

DH: yes, you suit both, so many women will envy you that

MoreBeta · 17/05/2011 15:51

PuppyMonkey · 17/05/2011 15:55

DP always notices and goes all OTT enthusiastic about how nice it looks. Like bloody Nicky Clarke himself. My work colleagues are odd though. I could go from long locks to a short bob, dye it bright blue and not a one of them will make a comment. Then, another time, I will come in and will get about 12 people asking if I've had it done, when I haven't at all.

People are weirdos.

Shodan · 17/05/2011 16:11

I used to get a crick in my neck from swishing my newly-cut hair around in front of DH in the forlorn hope that he would notice and comment.

I discovered the solution was to poke him firmly in the chest, gain eye contact and inform him I was off to have a haircut, I would return in about an hour whereupon I would expect fulsome compliments. Threats were issued in the event of non-compliance.

Using this method we have worked our way up to the dizzy heights of :

Me: What do you think? ( warning gleam in eye)

DH: It looks lovely.

Me: Really?

DH: Yes. Very nice.

Me: Do you like it?

DH: Yes. (with great conviction) You always look lovely.

I don't press any further because he starts to look panicked.

I'm sure your new do looks fab.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 17/05/2011 16:13

I grew up with a Father who;s stock line was

What, you mean you paid for that?

DH says it is best to say absolutely nothing as if he says my hair looks nice, he claims I will think it was not nice before. And of course he would be half way to divorce if he made any derogatory comments.

FoundWanting · 17/05/2011 16:18

If you work on the till in my Tesco, then your hair looks lovely.

I was going to say something to you about how lovely your hair looked but then that woman dropped a jar of beetroot and the moment passed.

If you don't work on the till at my Tesco, I'm sure it still looks lovely.

LaurieFairyCake · 17/05/2011 16:28

I had 7/8 inches cut off my hair a month ago and I had it layered. Dh didn't notice.

However I do like to have fun with him occasionally by saying (pointedly) "do you notice anything"

He looks terrified saying "lovely er....... Hair? New shoes? Er...."

All the while standing in a newly decorated room

SmethwickBelle · 17/05/2011 16:50

I had mine done two weeks ago and the only comment I got was from DS1 who said it looked "like a grandfather clock".

Still baffled about that.

I am sure your hair looks lovely. Cut and colours always make hair lovely and glossy x

ClipArt · 17/05/2011 17:18

You probably look nice overall rather than the hair standing out a mile (not literally :o) It just means your hair must suit you.

southeastastra · 17/05/2011 17:25

you look lovely

i remember working with a bloke years ago who took a call from his mother who was in floods of tears cause his dad hadn't noticed her new haircut

i've had mine done today, i'm not going to say anything and see if dp notices now

breatheslowly · 17/05/2011 17:25

I've had "where are the sweets" as the products the hairdresser used smelled quite sweet and "that haircut makes you look like a transexual". Silence would have been preferable. I do get nice comments when I have my eyelashes dyed.

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glasgowgirl2 · 17/05/2011 17:27

Than you everyone. A mum at school told me it looks nice today too. So I guess I haven't made a big mistake. At least I know its not just my dh and dc.

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chubsasaurus · 17/05/2011 17:36

I dyed mine dark dark reddy brown last year from blonde and DP managed to keep up the pretence that he liked it as much until I announced I was going back to blonde at which the relief was palpable. He's right though, we have a 9 year age gap anyway and with dark hair I look about 16, he was given a lot of weird looks for those 6 months

AngryFeet · 17/05/2011 17:37

I had mine done last week and noone has commented. However that is because it looks truely shit :(

Is yours a big difference or a subtle one?

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