to miss DP and sleep in his clothes

[chubsasaurus]

Nothing really to say, just miss my love and am still up, wearing his t shirt trying yet failing to sleep.

If anyone's up I'd appreciate the company. Feeling tired, a bit sad because of a misunderstanding with one of my best friends this evening, DP works 150 miles from where we live so spends one night a week away... I just miss him, wish I could sleep under his arm, don't like that the sun is up and I am yet to sleep

Awww you sound sad :(

And believe me, I know the missing thing (23 days till dp gets home :()

But if it's only one night then yes, you may be being a leetle bit melodramatic and U. He'll be home later

Hope you sort the misunderstanding out!

I opened the thread expecting to read that you'd had a recent bereavement. For one night YABVU.

Unkind posters!

YANBU, chubsasaurus. Just a softy. I, too, sleep with something of dh's to cuddle when he's away. It takes me 3 or more nights to get used to the empty bed. Sometimes I even steal a dc out of their own bed, and install them in mine so that I have someone to snuggle up to.

A better night tonight .

Sorry to be harsh. YABU. it is one night and he isn't dead.
Get a grip.

What kreecher said. Good grief!

Sorry but boak. Would be my idea of heaven having the bed to myself one night a week. I really think you should be able to cope with being apart one night a week, you sound quite needy.

Of course, it's a crime to miss somebody even if you've only been away from them for one night. I mean, it's not like people would miss their kids even if they were only away for one night, is it?

Along will come the competitive 'well I haven't seen MY partner for this long' posts.

YANBU. I hope the misunderstanding with your friend gets cleared up, and that you mange to get some rest today.

I pity you for the lack of sleep. Insomnia is a terrible thing. Will you have a chance to get your head down later today. I find a Siesta time (1pm-3pm) is optimum for a doze when I have been unable to sleep at night.

Apologies for sickening post, insomnia turns my brain to mush. I had an hour of sleep and DP is back tonight - it's not that I cant handle a day without him, I just really missed him last night.

YANBU. My husband and I have only spent one night apart in 7 years, when I was in hospital after having our son. I spent the whole night clutching his jumper and wailing.

Thank you. I feel a bit pathetic saying all this when people have lost their DH/Ps or they're in the army but I really do miss him when he isn't here, especially when I can't sleep and my friend's kicked off for no good reason. He's back tonight but in meetings all today and I'm generally an over tired wreck and just want to speak to him. I know how pathetic this makes me sound, it isn't my standard position but today I feel weak sad and alone

It doesn't sound pathetic in the slightest. Every relationship is different - some couples enjoy space and time apart, others don't. My husband and I are very close, too, and can never sleep properly without each other. It doesn't make us pathetic. Just concentrate on how good you will feel when you are back together and how nice you are going to be to him!

Thank you for being so nice to me, insomnia is genuinely killing my brain i can't stop crying. The thing is we never want or need space, our relationship has never had a single compromise it just fits and without him I feel like I'm sort of missing something, especially when my brain is fried.

Ah, what a wonderful thing - you are lucky to have each other.

I was just talking about this in the office. My boyfriend and I spend 6 nights a week together, but Monday nights are our regular 'self' nights. He stays at his flat, I stay at my house, and we just do our own thing.

It's great because it lets us get on with our own thing (for him it's geek stuff and for me it's baking and crap TV). But I find it really hard to sleep without him, and he finds it hard to sleep without me. I'd say we both get about 2hrs less sleep on Monday nights.

So I know what you mean, OP although I do think you're being a tad melodramatic

Toby I'm beyond melodramatic - I am like a period drama that involves a whole heap of deaths, murders and failed loves. As I said, this is not my general stance I'm just very tired and sad today. I feel very lucky to have him, I don't think this is even about him but I know I'd feel less shakey if he was here.

Can you talk to your friend? The one you had a misunderstanding with? Might make you feel better if you can sort things out with her.

YANBU - I sleep in DP's T shirt with his aftershave on when he isn't here.
I think its nice, not needy at all.
I hope you sort things out with your friend.

It's a him. I should be at work with him now. There isn't still a problem I'm just a bit insulted he thought what he did. I'm panicky about not being in work too but I finally drifted off around 7 and woke up at 11. It's not really the sort of job where this is a huge problem and hopefully it won't be but my general anxious panicking about all of this is not good.