To think that for once DH should say sorry

[meemu28]

I moved out of DH's house a year ago and seem to spend every weekend there. I also go there to clean during the day as after 8 years he has forgotten how to do it himself.

I am currently not working but have been offered a self employed position that I am very excited about. DH now wants to know when I am moving back in.

DH has DSS (8) every weekend but does nothing except lie on the sofa whilst I orginise meals, entrertainment etc. We also have a 1 yr old and I have a 12 year old from a previous relationship.

This weekend I have been typing and photographing stuff on Ebay as well as doing the usual washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning stuff at his. I had put my 1 yr old to bed and snuggled up to her for 10 mins when he barged into the bedroom saying ' I am glad you can have a f*ing sleep whilst I am downstairs with them two (SS and DS), I wanted you to put some stuff on Ebay for me'.

I explained I was only snuggling my DD and would be down in 5 mins to do it but he marched of and then started shouting at my DS for having his feet on the sofa.

Obviously I left immediately with my DS and DD (after waking her) as I thought he was being unreasonable and ridiculous.

I went back 45 mins later to pick up DS's Jumper and asked where my SS was only for him to tell me in a smug tone of voice that he had taken him home.

I am so angry with him that he cannot even look after his own child esp. since this has now become my fault.

I rang him today to see if he wanted me to make his dinner when he got back from work and he said, 'no, I will sort myself out'. Something he has not managed to do in 8 years.

I am so sick of being the one to apologise even when I don't know what I have done, just to keep the peace and I am fed up of him having a go a my DS when he is in a bad mood even though we have to treat the SS with kid gloves as he is sensitive.

XH paid my overdraft off loads of times. That's what partners do. They share - time, love, money etc.

If the OP is really living with her OH and claiming rent and CT for the home her OH lives in, but on the forms claims to be living alone, then that's a scam.

If we take the OP at face value, then she says they are living separately and he is asking when she is moving back in.

If they really are living separately then there isn't a scam to be had.

Bloody Hell!

Surely this is a wind up.

...and don't call me Shirley!

I'm confused.. you left but are his cleaner? Are you separated or trying to work on your relationship? He sounds like a plonker. I think you need to move on. Hope it all works out for you x

you my dear are the definition of some one who does not believe they can do any better and does not feel they deserve any better. he is rude to you treats you and your children appallingly from your post and yet you go back for more you are a virtual servant, you have talked about your weight and money issues as reasons for you being with him. really you need to learn to respect your self a bit more. think of the example you are setting your children, you are teaching your daughter that a man can behave how ever he wants and still get what he wants if he throws you a bone now and then and this is the male role model in you sons life. i hope as others say this is a wind up because i honestly cant believe that some one chooses to live like this.

WTF?? So you moved out (why??) but still go back every weekend and cook, clean, look after him? And for what? your overdraft being paid off and occasional sex? Are you INSANE??? What sort of example of a relationship are you showing your kids? That you are a doormat and he is a selfish lazy tosser. Dump him. Now. Get him to pay you a decent amount to support his children. Get access agreements written up. And move on. Jeeeez.