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Just broken my diet at 9.45 Mon morning

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barbie007 · 16/05/2011 09:58

Got up, put my gym gear on and was full of positive thoughts....starting diet today, I need to lose a stone.

Well, poor dd is unwell so I can't go to the gym. So I thought I might as well start tomorrow and I've just eaten a whole box of chocolate fingers. What is wrong with me?

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CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 10:00

Oh dear! :(

But don't give up now and write today off totally. Stop the rot NOW by stopping eating and trying to do something active is DD has a nap

Hope she gets well soon

FabbyChic · 16/05/2011 10:00

You have no will power, you could lose a stone in a month without going to the gym.

TattyDevine · 16/05/2011 10:00

You are a victim of "black and white" thinking in relation to dieting - this is caused by dieting itself, usually. You are either on or off a diet. If you are off, you are OFF in a grand way. When you are on, you follow it to the letter. But the slightest thing that puts you off, like a weekend away, a night out, or a slice of birthday cake being foisted on you at the office, and you've "blown it" and you "start again Monday" etc etc and put back on anything you've managed to lose thus far. Your weight yoyos, and you are fed up.

Am I right?

CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 10:03

That's helpful fabby Hmm

CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 10:03

And to lose a stone in a month is VERY fast and not healthy

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barbie007 · 16/05/2011 10:04

tatty....soooo right! Never heard it expresssed like that but that's me! I'm always either putting on weight or trying to get rid of it, never stable.
Is that common? What can I do?

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websticks · 16/05/2011 10:04

Well i am worse than you. Decided yesterday to start diet today bought all health stuff yesterday. Was planning to take baby for a long walk this morning, woke up seen the rain and had the left over cheesecake from yesterday for breakfast! What is wrong with me too? :)

nethunsreject · 16/05/2011 10:06

Stop keeping shit in the house.

Eat tonnes of fruit and veg, plenty of complex carbs and protein and the odd treat.

It is easy once you get going.

Do not 'diet'.

TattyDevine · 16/05/2011 10:08

You need to change your way of thinking about diets. Doesn't really matter which diet you do - you need to learn to not feel "dirty" or a "failure" if you have to come off it for some reason or another, and break out of the cycle where if you are not on a diet, you are overeating and overindulging.

One of the reasons this begins is because of dieting itself - many make you feel deprived in some way or other and therefore if through circumstances beyond your control (or orchestrated by you without even realising it) you come off, then you have a "holiday" and end up overindulging.

If you didn't view it as such a setback, you could at the very least "break even" from a blip - have a day where you dont shed a few ounces - but instead you end up putting on what you may have lost the day or days before.

You have to have a mantra where you really manage to convince yourself that it doesn't matter, and that you carry on from there no matter what or no matter how bad you feel.

So this morning, really would have been easy enough - eat sensibly and exercise tomorrow. Or go to the gym tonight.

There may be an underlying reason in that your heart wasn't quite in it to start with - is dieting and losing weight something you feel you "should" do rather than something you have a burning desire to do?

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barbie007 · 16/05/2011 10:17

tatty....I want to lose a stone, I'll look better and feel better to. I'm lucky that I like exercise so when I set my mind to it I can lose the weight. Problem is it'll come back. I've been losing and putting on the same stone for years, it's frustrating.

But I am very all or nothing like you say. Either at the gym and eating well or not going for weeks and stuffing my face.

But today might be the start of something...I honestly have not seen it explained like you explained it in your previous post. I'm going to try my hardest not to blow it today and pig out.

Nethuns....i do try not to buy crap but with 3 kids it's quite hard. they want a biscuit when they get in from school.....

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CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 10:19

Oi! That's what I said too - in far fewer words!! :o

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barbie007 · 16/05/2011 10:22

curry...I don't want to lose it in a month, i just want to lose it

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dinkystinky · 16/05/2011 10:23

OP - do you have an exercise dvd? If so, get yourself moving to it while at home. Or do some gardening or extra vigorous cleaning - scrubbing on hands and knees. Going to the gym or not doesnt have to be the thing that tips you over the edge - try tothink about approaching weight loss as a long term lifestyle change and ensuring you look after yourself and factor in small treats (one or two fingers, not all of them) into your diet so you dont feel deprived.

CurrySpice · 16/05/2011 10:24

I didn't say you did OP - I was answering fabby!

Are my posts invisible? :o

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barbie007 · 16/05/2011 10:39

sorry curry!!
I'm just reading too quickly. DD seems to have perked up a bit and I'm going to hoover up...that should burn up some chocolate fingers

Iv'e never been able to just eat a couple of biscuits...it's either nothing or 10....I need to really think about what I'm doing...but I do feel better than I did at 9.45 so you're all helping, thankyou :)

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CherryDrops · 16/05/2011 11:09

If you find that you can't just eat one biscuit then try having something else in the house for the kids that you find easier to resist. Controlling your intake of things that come in individually wrapped portions can be easier, as you can't just have one more biscuit without opening a new packet. Buy mini packs of digestives instead of a normal pack of biscuits. That way you get a treat, you can eat the whole pack, but you haven't ruined your diet - you just incorporate it as a daily treat.

You just need to find ways to overcome your obstacles. You know which situations you find harder so find alternatives. Just because you want to lose weight doesn't mean you have to cut out everything you enjoy, you just need to learn the art of moderation!

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barbie007 · 16/05/2011 12:04

You're so right cherry.
But it hard to enjoy things in moderation isn't it.

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TattyDevine · 16/05/2011 12:12

Is it though.

Or is there potential to enjoy them even more if they are in moderation and there is absolutely no guilt or repercussions connected to them?

Where you sit and savour it and really taste it and appreciate it?

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