to care about my brother and his DP's obesity

[Bennifer]

Ok, my brother and his DP are obese, and as far as I know, they're doing nothing to counter it. I think they have a fairly unhealthy diet, do no exercise, etc, and have steadily got larger over the past few years.

I know that one hand, it's their life, and their choice, but on the other hand, I only see their health deteriorating, and I think as a couple, they reinforce each other's behaviour.

I know when my mum tried to mention it a while ago, he reacted quite angrily, saying he didn't care.

AIBU to care? What can I do?

Of course yanbu. But what can you do? It's their life.

YANBU to care, but there's nothing you can do unless and until they are ready to do something about it themselves.

YANBU to care, but I fail to see what you can actually do. Its up to them how they live their lives.

YANBU I don't know your brother so I don't know what would work, for some people gentle teasing helps them, others face to face discussion is better. It depends on his personality which hopefully you have an idea of

Put yourself in their position. Do you really think you would be influenced on such a major life issue by anything your annoying brother or, worst of all, your SIL, had to say?

parakeet, I suspect not, I think there's nothing I can do, just it hurts to see them consigning themselves to bad health