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prams and trains

32 replies

Annpan88 · 15/05/2011 16:38

Basically, me, Dh and 8 week old DS and on the train journey back from the inlaws (a bit of a trek) and we get on the train. The only space on one of these retro trains is the wheel chair spot. No people with a wheel chair but one twenty something bloke with a small suit case stretched out.

We had to park the buggy there with a sleeping DS. I personally think its rude that the bloke didn't get up to give us the seats or even move his rucksack so one of us could sit down with DS. There were plenty of other seats that would of accomadated him (albeit without the legspace he was so enjoying). DH and I had to stand and we obviously couldn't leave DS unattended.

I would of and have give up my seat in similar situations and think while its not our god given right to have seating in this area, it would of been polite.

Also, I should add if some one in a wheel chair had come on, I deff would of moved, folded the pram and woken baby (and be happy to do)

AIBU to think this man was rude and not feel bad that we ended up hovering around him (he also made a big deal of stretching again when we got ofmaybe I'm just tired and grumpy and need to rant about meaninglelss rubbish

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beanlet · 15/05/2011 21:44

The term you're after, ding dong, is passive-aggressive.

"I'm incredibly sorry, but this is the only place on the entire train that we can park the pram, and one of us needs to be close to the baby - would you mind moving your rucksack so that I can sit down?"

I have never had anything but polite helpfulness from even the scariest looking alcoholic smelling tattooed bruisers when I've asked for help with the baby. Whipping your tits out to feed also creates lebensraum, I find Grin

NestaFiesta · 16/05/2011 00:03

YANBU. this has happened to me loads but I usually do ask nicely. For those saying OP should fold buggy etc- much easier for Daddy LongLegs to move a freaking rucksack than take a baby out of a pram and deal with bags, pram and baby.

beanlet · 16/05/2011 00:41

None of us have said she should fold it. She didn't need to - that wasn't the issue. Read the thread properly next time.

SoloIsAHotCougar · 16/05/2011 00:49

I went to a MN thing in London last year with Dd in the buggy and had to negotiate loads^ of staircases. I didn't ask anyone for help. I didn't have to, I had help at every set of stairs, people were so helpful, not rude at all. Must admit, I was really surprised, but they were great! Go Londoners!

northernrock · 16/05/2011 09:01

Ha Ha! TheyKnow -far from it!(FlatteredGrin)

pregnantpause · 16/05/2011 09:24

YANBU - and i don't think you should have had to ask either! It would have been common courtesy for the gentleman to move, himself and his rucksack!
Thoughtless and selfish of him! And this attitude is all too common on public transport IME.

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 16/05/2011 09:33

I agree that you shouldn't have had to ask, OP - pregnantpause is right that simple courtesy should have made him move the bag, but when he didn't, you could just have asked him to move it. That is much better than fuming silently about it at the time then coming here and complaining.

And I am sorry, but emsyj is right about would/should have, rather than would/should of.

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